Dodgems

Most will know these as just “bumper cars” but I am of an age to remember them being called by the proper name. The original idea was to actually avoid everyone else, hence the “Dodgem” name but now people just crash into one another.

The reason that I have raised this subject is a way to describe how my brain actually works and exists. Having being sexually abused, falsely accused of sexual abuse, attempted bribery and all of the rest, all of this literally spins around my head all day and all night and when something happens that is traumatic or just a memory pops into my consciousness, some of these memories just crash into one another. It is on going and never EVER stops.

I just wanted to explain, in as simple terms as I can think of, as to what is happening to me. 99% of people would not be able to fathom how it can be for someone like me.

Sometimes, a metaphor is the easiest way to describe what is happening.

A retrospective

Fact: I will never see my father, brother, cousin or daughter again and neither will I see any grandchildren; that is very sad, incredibly sad.

You all know that my father sexually abused me and when he got sick with Alzheimer’s, tried to destroy me but, when he was well, he loved me in his own way.

You also know that my daughter falsely accused me of sexual abusing her; what my father did not manage to do, my daughter managed it, to the extent that I am a mere shell of my former self. I keep on fighting but one day, I will just decide that I have had enough fighting and just die; I have been slowly dying since April 2016.

But I have to hang onto memories that are so special to me.

I used when I was very young and my Dad was building up the company, go to work with him on a Saturday. I would sit in his office, whilst he was working and play Solitaire on my own on the boardroom table that was at the end of his office.

When I turned 13, my Dad said to me that “it was time that I went to work for him”. I was so very proud of myself and my Dad. I stayed with his company, going through every department but stopped when I had to revise for my “O” and “A” levels. Then I went to university to read civil engineering but I could not deal with 3 dimensional mathematics and went to work in his computer department. When I say “computer”, it filled up a multiple of rooms as it was so big and I worked from a terminal. I loved it and did really well but the chairman, who was a hypocrite, did not like nepotism so I left and went to study Chartered Accountancy; the rest is history but even though all of these experiences were decades ago, I remember them as though they were yesterday.

The same applies to my daughter. I have not seen her since the middle of 2015 and have not heard her voice since late January 2016, when she invited me to come and take her out for dinner.

But, just like my Dad, I remember everything, from the time when she was being born and I had to fight with the medical staff to save my baby and my wife, to the first moment that she was placed in my lap, minutes after birth, with her big blue eyes looking up at me, as I gave her the first feed. I remember signing her up for nursery at Downsend School to picking her up most days in my bright yellow TVR. When I had her for a weekend and took her to school on a Monday morning in The Yellow Peril, as we called it, I took the back roads with Verity saying “Faster Dad, faster”. I remember it all very well.

Then, when Verity got older, the boyfriends came and it was very hard for me to “lose” my little girl and see her all grown up. But, even though we are apart and probably will be for the rest of my life, she will always be my little girl. Most Dads, if not all of them, will agree with me over that.

But the very special time was when Liesel was alive and Verity’s mother went off the rails. Liesel treated Verity like a daughter and the feeling was reciprocated. But that only lasted 8 months but what a 8 months it was; we were all so happy, even if Liesel and I knew that she was dying.

Verity and I were to join Liesel in South Africa for Christmas but around the 10th December, I got the call that I was dreading. Given the urgency, I had to go on my own but when I phoned Verity to say that she was not coming to South Africa, she screamed at me and cried uncontrollably.

Although the plan was for Liesel, Verity and I to fly home together after the New Year, I believe in my heart that she was not coming back to her second home and bought the return ticket for show and to appease Verity and I. Her wish was to die in South Africa, in her home and she got her wish but she stayed alive long enough to see the birth of her niece, Brody.

Even before I flew out there, I called South Africa to give them an update and Liesel answered the phone; I was flummoxed. She was totally lucid but when I told her that I had to fly out on my own, she screamed down the phone and was apoplectic. That caused a big stir and her brother’s wife, Mandy, grabbed the phone and shouted at me, asking what the hell was going on. When I explained, she understood.

Even when I was out there, I desperately tried to get Verity out to say goodbye. Maybe she was a bit too young but, because the two of them were so close, I knew that Verity would not forgive me. But her mother refused to let her fly on her own and would flatly deny it if asked, even though my Dad would have taken her to the airport and she would have been looked after my the aircrew (and probably spoilt rotten). Even though I could not leave my Lies but Verity was not allowed to fly out on her own, with her being picked up by Liesel’s Dad, who she knew from before, I just could not win and, in the end, pleased no one.

In fact, I strongly believe that Verity has never ever forgiven me, even though I was totally powerless.

If Verity does not believe me, all she has to do is to contact one of Liesel’s brothers, her Mum or Dad. We were all together. They will tell Verity what REALLY happened; I have not spoken to them for 10 years. I leave them with their grief.

I will go further. I believe that was why Verity so readily agreed, with a money incentive from my sick father, to falsely accuse me of sexual abuse and all of the rest that has happened between us.

A traumatic event in one’s formative years, such as not being able to say goodbye to the one you love, runs very deep and never ever leaves you, no matter how old or young you are.

I am changing tack

I have decided that I have had enough of the injustice that I have endured.

I have therefore decided to simultaneously sue both my daughter for significant damages for falsely accusing me of sexual abuse, as well as suing Ron Downhill for financial abuse.

Some may say that it would be unfair to sue my 23 year old daughter for damages but I can easily illustrate that she has a direct financing route to the trust, even though she is not a beneficiary.

Unfair? What exactly is unfair? Her falsely accusing me of sexual abuse and therefore ruining my life or suing her for what she has done to me?

Youngsters, in this day and age, think that they can get away with everything but, in my book, they cannot

And my solicitor is behind me, all of the way

Getting justice

I have reported my father, a mason, for financial abuse, inciting my daughter to falsely accuse me of sexual abuse by paying her and for attempting to bribe me. The police did nothing because they are corrupt, inept and incompetent; there is no point in pushing against the tide.

So, I am now taking a different approach and am ignoring the police, who do nothing. I have engaged a very proactive and “aggressive” firm of solicitors to personally sue Ron Downhill, the tax and legal advisor to the trustees for financial abuse, as there is no point in suing my father, as he now suffers from advanced Alzheimer’s; however, even though he is incapable of defending himself in court, I will also go after his estate, which is “managed” by my brother, Martin and my father’s ex financial advisor, John Marriott, both of whom are also masons. I will, in effect, be suing both of them personally, as they both hold powers of attorney over my father’s affairs. My father invited me to be one of his attorneys years ago, but when my father became ill with Alzheimer’s, I was pushed out by the very man who appointed me.

Once I have dealt with him, I will then turn my attention to my cousin, who completely stitched me up and for taking money by false pretenses, despite me helping her out at every single opportunity and once she is dealt with, I will turn my attention to my daughter, for falsely and maliciously accusing me of sexual abuse and actual bodily harm that caused me immeasurable damage.

THEN I will have some justice. Hopefully then, my physical and mental health will improve.

The dumbing down of GB News

I had great hopes for GB News and, especially the new programme with Nigel Farage but they are just dumbing down.

I have a big issue with illegal immigration and those coming across the channel. It has been announced by that woeful Priti Patel that she has “done a deal” with France to limit migration. Both Priti Patel AND GB News are in cloud cookoo land as it will make little difference.

GB News refuses to criticise Priti Patel for her ineptitude and incompetence and that was not what Andrew Neil said that GB News was supposed to be.

I am not cruel and am a humanist. People in desperate need should be taken in; that is what the British are like but this is sadly not the case with the majority of migrants; they come here for economic reasons, for our benefit system and for free housing.

Quite frankly, I am disgusted with GB News for taking this dumbed down approach. Why do they not call for Patel’s removal; she has done absolutely nothing. She “talks the talk” but does not “walk the walk” and neither is GB News; they do not have the “cohenes”

GB News must ensure that it does not become like the other media channels

I even emailed Nigel Farage pointing out that, yes we take less immigrants than France, but we are less than a quarter of the size. He ignored me and was then hijacked during an interview with Amnesty International

I WILL CONTINUE TO CONSTRUCTIVELY CRITICISE GB NEWS UNTIL THEY DO WHAT THEY SAID THEY WERE GOING TO DO, particularly in Andrew Neil’s opening statement on the very first airing of GB News, otherwise GB News will become just an irrelevance.

And everything that Andrew Neil said will just be sheer bullshit

Berwin Leighton Paisner ignored the fact that my father had Alzheimer’s

William Thomas Hender: date of birth 28th November 1930
This message was sent with High importance.
David Hender
Mon 29/08/2016 11:52
lisa.mayhewxxxxxxxx;
complaintshandling@xxxxxxxxx;
Ron Downhill (Berwin Leighton);
John Marriott (Private)

Dear Mrs Mayhew,

The above person is my father and he is one of Mr Downhill’s longstanding clients, whom I have also had countless dealings over the years, particularly to do with the family trust that is run by Paicolex, a Swiss company that is associated with Berwin Leighton Paisner.

He was sadly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s over three years ago and his behaviour has become particularly dysfunctional, especially towards me and my cousin over the last year.

He advised me approximately 6 months ago that he was going to have a new will prepared that would effectively cut me out of the will in favour of my brother, Martin William Hender and possibly my daughter, Verity Jade Beatrice Hender.

I have now learned that this “new” will has not yet been signed and/or witnessed and given that my father no longer sadly has full mental capacity, he is legally prevented from making a new will.

My father and Mr Downhill have had a very close working relationship over many years and I wish to register my concern that Mr Downhill will let my father have a new will lodged, despite his lack of mental capacity. I have also learned that my father is also a mason despite him denying this for many years and it may be that Mr Downhill is one also, which would mean that he would allegedly have an “obligation” to secure the completion of the new will.

I understand that my father will be seeing Mr Downhill shortly to secure the completion of the new will and I would like to respectfully point out to you that such an act would be illegal and the will would be void.

My brother and I were attorneys for both his welfare and financial/personal affairs and he, as a result of his illness, has allegedly had my POAs rescinded. I have written to the Office of the Public Guardian to determine as to whether this is true and, if so, to have it overturned due to his lack of mental capacity. I will go to court if it is necessary.

With regard to the “new” will, I did speak to Mr Downhill over this and he said that “in such a circumstance, I would have to go to court to have it overturned”. Indeed, Mr Downhill was bluffing insofar that the supposed new will had not even been ratified, even though it cannot be legally done so.

Mr Downhill has been extremely helpful to me over the years, particularly in dealing with the family trust but I am afraid to say that this crosses the red line.

I am prepared for this to be dealt with “in house” but if this debacle is not stopped, I will have no hesitation but to contact the Solicitors Regulatory Authority.

It is a case in point that my mother, Betty Hender, suffered from Alzheimer’s and even though at the time, her Alzheimer’s was not as advanced as my father’s currently is, was prevented by Mr John Marriott, my father’s financial advisor, from being a joint settlor to a UK trust due to her lack of mental capacity. Hence, Mr Marriott was complying with the law and the strict ethical code by which he has always worked under.

I am fully aware that Mr Downhill has retired as a partner and now acts as a consultant but is still bound by the ethical code under which Berwin Leighton Paisner operates as a law firm as he acts as a consultant to BLP. Furthermore, he must still abide by the ethical code set down by the Law Society.

I would suggest that the way that my father will get around his lack of mental capacity is to have the will to “pre date” his diagnosis of Alzheimer’s and to have his PA or another employee of BLP to agree to witness this “pre dated” document. If my suggestion is realised, I would further suggest that previous copies, of my father’s will, will be destroyed.

I am sure that you appreciate this is an extremely serious position but I now have no other course but to contact you as the Managing Partner of the firm. Given the serious nature of this issue, I should be grateful of a response by Wednesday 31st August.

Thanking you for your kind attention in this matter.

Yours sincerely,

David Hender A.C.A.
RE: William Thomas Hender: date of birth 28th November 1930
You replied on Thu 01/09/2016 10:11
Lisa Mayhew <Lisa.Mayhew@xxxxxxxx>
Thu 01/09/2016 09:15
You;
Ron Downhill;
John Marriott (Private)

Dear Mr Hender

Thank you for your email dated 29 August 2016.

I will make enquiries and thereafter take such action as may be appropriate.

Yours sincerely

Lisa Mayhew | Berwin Leighton Paisner LLP
Managing Partner

Re: William Thomas Hender: date of birth 28th November 1930
David Hender
Thu 01/09/2016 10:11
Lisa Mayhew

Dear Mrs Mayhew,

As I am sure you appreciate, I am deeply concerned about this turn of events but I have great confidence that you will ensure that this debacle never takes place.

I look forward to an update from you in due course.

Yours sincerely,

The behaviour of Paicolex Trust Management AG and Berwin Leighton Paisner
You forwarded this message on Fri 11/01/2019 15:40
David Hender
Fri 11/01/2019 13:17
Andrew Lugg (Paicolex Chairman);
Clare Edwards (Paicolex);
Lisa Mayhew Managing Partner Berwin Leighton;
Ron Downhill
+1 other
Dear Mr Lugg,
I have now proved to you that these so called additions to the outstanding loan are not only contrary to the loan agreement, a scanned copy of which I have on one of my computers but are a tissue of lies as it was impossible for the trust/ASC to loan me any money at all as the said purchase of Long Barn was made prior to the sale of Vendcrown/Premium Credit Limited to MBNA.
I have also shown that my father was not only an indirect settlor via Michael Harold Cobb, a person of South African domicile but was also a direct settlor to the tune of £500,000,as my father’s instructions were misinterpreted.
Any settlor, whether direct or otherwise has no right to determine how the trust is to be run. That duty falls to the appointed trustees, in this case being Paicolex Trust Management AG. The trustees have a primary duty of care to run the trust both fairly and equitably and have a further duty of care, to current and future beneficiaries, to protect the assets of the trust.
It was, for this reason, that I reported Thomas Meier to Lisa Mayhew, who holds ultimate responsibility for the proper and professional running of both Berwin Leighton Paisner and Paicolex Trust Management AG. Shortly after my reporting of Mr Meier to Lisa Mayhew, Thomas Meier announced his “retirement” as he had failed in his duty of care to protect the assets of the trust and, in this case, that monies had been loaned to my brother with either no security or inadequate security. I compare this to the monies that the trust loaned me, which have 300% security.
Both you and Clare Edwards have failed in your duty of care to treat both beneficiaries on an equal footing and have taken the word of my father, who has no legal power over either of you. He has, with both your agreements, tried to insert unsecured soft loans, owed to him personally and repayable on his death, into monies owed to the trust by me. You have thus failed me, as a beneficiary, to treat me equitably and thus you have both failed in your primary duty of care to me, as beneficiary.
Paicolex Trust Management AG has thus totally failed in its duty of care to the trust and I will be calling for your and Clare Edwards dismissal. As Lisa Mayhew holds ultimate responsibility for both BLP and Paicolex, I will also be calling for her dismissal and will notify Brian Cave, BLP’s merger partners of this grave and serious breach of duty of care.
You have also conspired with my father to insert clauses that were not in the agreement that I signed. You, as chairman of the corporate trustees or indeed Clare Edwards, a fully qualified solicitor, could quite easily have checked with the loan agreement, a hard copy of which was returned by me to Paicolex but you both just took both my father’s word and his instructions, which is yet another failure in your duty of care as trustees.
Unbeknownst to you and Clare Edwards, my father entered into a verbal contract for the “family” to purchase a suitable property for Rosanna in the case that she and I divorced. This was witnessed by me in the kitchen of Long Barn shortly before our marriage. Whether Rosanna actually planned the whole divorce and was a gold digger is irrelevant as what is relevant is that the “family” should have paid for a new home for her and not me; indeed the loan amount that is outstanding more of less equals the amount of money that was awarded to her and which I paid by way of a loan from the trust/ASC.
I will not only swear an affidavit that this verbal contract was undertaken but will swear in court to the same effect
I am an honourable man and have always paid all of my debts and it is right that my father personally repay the loan to the trust and to provide compensation to Rosanna for the monies that awarded to her but were limited by my lack of capital and to me for the interest that I have paid, since the divorce, on the £180,000. To this effect, I will be forwarding this email to Rosanna.
But the matter gets gravely worse in that Ron Downhill concocted a scheme that would repay the loan over a period of time. Not only was this scheme illegal but was against the advice that he gave to me in 2015. The “so called” repayment scheme is patently illegal and I will be demanding that he is dismissed as a consultant. In addition, I will write to the SRA demanding that he be struck off.
Lisa Mayhew was aware of most of these matters but she chose to ignore them. She is thus as culpable as you, Clare Edwards and Ron Downhill, which provides further evidence that she should be dismissed.
I also have definitive proof that BLP and Ron Downhill constructed tax evasion exercises for my father, Leon Du Toit Stoffberg and Michael Harold Cobb. Whilst the “donkey work” was undertaken by Quentin Solt, an old friend of mine, it was signed off by Ron Downhill. Likewise the financial “donkey work” with relation to the management buy out was undertaken by me but on the instructions of the core directors of Vendcrown / Premium Credit. But it should be noted that the only core director who was against the tax evasion was the late Colin Ringrose who informed me personally that he had paid all of his tax and he had been disinterested in any clever tax scheme.
I will also be demanding full disclosure of the accounts of Adriatic Sea Corporation to see just how much extra has been paid to my brother. I can do nothing about the extra monies that were paid to my brother personally by my father although I suspect that this was actually a bribe to hide his suspected abuse of not only my daughter but also that of my two nieces.
Even my father has tried to bribe me, by offering me £250,000 to move to South Africa on the condition that I surrender my Harwyn (the family company) shares. But my father has totally underestimated my moral standing and I will not give into bullying tactics or bribes.
This will be published on my blog for the world to see, once this email has been sent.
My father confessed to me that he was “obsessed by money” and he has used this to rip the family apart and to split me from the only person I now care about, my daughter
I am sure that my father sleeps soundly but I just wonder how you, Clare Edwards, Lisa Mayhew do? I have no knowledge as to whether any of you have children and do not care but, if you do, I wonder if you could do this to a son or daughter and whether any of you sleep soundly or that you just treat it as “doing business”.
Regards
Your complaint
Gaby Kaiser <Gaby.Kaiser@xxxxxxx>
Fri 16/03/2018 13:28
You

Dear Mr Hender

I refer to your email dated 10 March addressed to me and also to your further emails of 11, 12 and 13 March to which either I or Ms Mayhew were copied.   I have also now seen your three emails of today.

As regards your email to me, please note the following:

1.     Your reference to requesting details of correspondence is not understood. In my email of 7 March, I did not make any reference to correspondence.  What I said, and this remains the position, is that any “issues pertaining to the management of Paicolex and/or BLP LLP are confidential and will not be discussed with you”.

2.     Your comments regarding Ms Mayhew are both inaccurate and misconceived.  Ms Mayhew is perfectly entitled to delegate certain matters to other senior members of the firm and I am liaising with Ms Mayhew as appropriate regarding your demands.  In any case, we remain of the view that it is not appropriate or necessary to Ms Mayhew to attend a meeting with you.

3.     Your comments in relation to Paicolex are noted but not agreed.

It is regrettable that you appear to have rejected Paicolex’s proposal to meet to discuss any pertinent issues relating to the trust and I hope that, on reflection, you will revise your stance. I understand that Clare Edwards of Paicolex will be writing to you with a further invitation to meet her at which it is anticipated that Mr Downhill would be in attendance as the trustee’s legal adviser.

I should say, however, that it is not appropriate to demand to meet Mr Downhill at his private home and nor is it helpful or appropriate to threaten BLP and/or Paicolex and/or the individuals to whom you refer in your various emails unless they capitulate to your demands. I strongly suggest that you obtain independent legal advice in relation to such matters as a matter of priority.

Yours sincerely

Gaby Kaiser (she has now left Berwin Leighton and I do not blame her)

Private & Confidential

You replied on Fri 05/10/2018 19:54
Gaby Kaiser <gaby.kaiser@xxxxxxxxx>
Fri 05/10/2018 16:28
You

A letter to the trustees

Anyone who knows me knows what I have been through, with the collapse of my career. Lat year, I wanted to kill myself as it had just got too much and all of the stress has caused huge effects to my body, such as my horrendous skin condition, which means that I am in pain 24/7 and I have sleepless and broken nights. Here is a picture of how my foot looks

Digital Camera

Out of sheer desperation, I have written this letter to the trustees, highlighting the unfair treatment between my brother and I. Here is the letter, which was painful to write and will be painful to read.

“The trustees of the Hender Family Settlement

By email only

18th July 2021

Dear trustees,

Thanks to information from Lori Cameron, I am now well aware that my father is in the advanced stage of Alzheimer’s and that my brother has taken over all of his financial and personal matters and that he, Ron Downhill and John Marriott are all masons.

When I was staying at Lori’s house, she made me aware that there was a concerted effort to have me removed as a beneficiary of the trust; the parties involved being my father, my brother, John Marriott and Ron Downhill. This meeting took place in the chambers of a masonic lodge that is below the current offices of Bryan Cave Berwin Leighton in London. I have this conversation recorded on my laptop, unbeknownst to Lori, who I have never really trusted, as she has continually sat on the fence, playing to me and to my father/brother for her own benefit. If questioned, Lori will deny saying that but she will also confirm that I had my laptop open at all times, as I was working to find a solution to have a better life and also managing my affairs remotely, which is so easy to do these days.

But Ron Downhill could not break the trust deed, as when my father was well, he made it so watertight for Martin and I that provision would ALWAYS be made for us ON AN EQUAL BASIS. Then we died, it would pass to our children. THAT WAS WHAT HE WANTED FOR BOTH OF HIS BOYS, when he was free of his disease anyway.

Given that you can do basically whatever you like with regards to my distribution, I have kept my powder dry on this matter. This is unequivocally financial abuse and is easily proved.

I did not remember the conversation that my father had with Rosanna at the time of the execution of the loan agreement, as I was still suffering from the effects of the divorce and could not think straight, but remembered it two years later. The “proper loan” that is supposedly due to the trust is as a result of my father’s breach of a verbal contract with Rosanna and also a breach of a promise, both of which are recognised in law and legally binding on my father and/or his estate. If the trustees took a moral stance, they would have ignored the £180,000 or so and would have sought repayment from my father. Given my father’s advancing illness, after two years, they sought to tack on extra debt, which was at the whim of my now sick father.

My father did not disclose it either at the court hearing and, as although he has always said that he has a much better memory than me, he purposely failed to disclose to the court the arrangement that he had with Rosanna. Given that his appearance in court was some years before his actual diagnosis of Alzheimer’s, it is obvious that he broke his oath and committed perjury. I have already provided a “sworn” affidavit to this effect. As I am not religious, I cannot, in all good conscience, swear an oath and thus affirmed my affidavit. Regardless of whether it is a sworn or an affirmation, if the affidavit proves to be false, I can be imprisoned for perjury but, as the statement that I made in front of a notary was true, that is academic.

There is also the issue of my sexual abuse by my father when I was 8 and which I endured it until 12 or 13. I did report my father to the police last year but thanks to his masonic connections, it was buried by the Metropolitan Police. I am pushing GB News to disclose the attitude of the police towards male sexual abuse and have communicated with Andrew Neil personally on this matter. He is minded to produce a programme, on his return, to blow this issue wide open and, if you are aware of GB News, he does not hold back. After all, he tore Richi Sunak apart in the first week of airing.

If Martin has a good memory, he will remember that when we were on holiday, I suddenly could not wear trousers and had to stay in my room in the evenings. On our return, my mother had all of my school trousers lined with silk. This was a precursor to the effects of abuse that I now constantly suffer.

As if that was not enough, I have a telephone conversation with my father, admitting to inciting my daughter to accuse me of sexual abuse, on my Dictaphone. Given what I knew about my so called family’s dishonesty, I could not trust anyone and so all telephone conversations with my father were recorded for my own protection.

Let us turn to Ron Downhill, who swore blind on an email that he was not a mason. If he had nothing to hide, why deny it as the masonic institution is, after all, a proscribed organisation, much to my disgust and moral standards.

He is the tax and legal advisor to the trustees and is thankfully under English legal jurisdiction. I even know where he lives thanks to the power of the internet and Companies House Beta; you just have to dig a little.

Ronald Edwards Downhill lives at xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

(It is also fortuitous that Martin, my biological brother, also lives in England and is subject to English jurisdiction)

Given that Ron Downhill is the tax and legal advisor of the trustees, the trustees are legally prevented from effecting any change to original arrangements, WITHOUT his authority.

As the trustees are in breach of their duties by acting on arrangement changes that are contrary to ANY legal agreement, the actions of providing advice to the trustees, which was illegal, constitutes the incitement of financial abuse against me.

Indeed, with regards to the arrangement with Rosanna, Ron Downhill was in attendance at the court hearing (but not present in court) to give legal advice to both my father and Thomas Meier, for which he charged at fortune. He was professionally responsible for giving the proper advice and for also asking questions of my father, such as “were there any fall back arrangements for financing Rosanna in the case of a divorce?”. He clearly failed to ask these questions and so was highly negligent in providing poor advice and not asking the right questions. My father told me that he charged £30,000 for the day.

Given that Ron Downhill was present at both the divorce hearing and at the insidious meeting to try and get me removed from the trust, he has not only been negligent but committed financial abuse against me and that can be proven.

However, Ron Downhill’s attitude towards me may also be down to the demise of his best friend, Thomas Meier and so he has just “got the hump”. IF this is the case, then he is being very churlish.

As a forensic Chartered Accountant, I exposed the arrangements that were made for Martin and that they were contrary to the fiduciary responsibilities as a trustee, namely Thomas Meier.

I was, as a beneficiary, well in my rights to complain about his actions and that they were unfair and, as a result of my complaint, he was sacked or as BLP put it, he “retired”, although he is still a member of the Swiss Trust Association and I am quite sure provides consultancy to Paicolex at a very high fee. After all, he has his own consultancy business (TEM Consulting).

I can also prove the direct link between my father and the trustees, then supervised by Thomas Meier. For two years, he agreed to all of my calculations for loan interest and was in full agreement of the capital that was due.

If there had been any other loans outstanding, Thomas would have insisted that I amended my capital (and interest) calculations. After all, he had access to ALL of the details of property transactions, actually far more than me, as EVERYTHING was sent to the him by the conveyancing solicitors.

So why, when coincidentally, he was superceded by Claire Edwards and my father was diagnosed as having Alzheimer’s, did everything suddenly change? Loans appeared out of nowhere, completely contrary to all of the documents that were sent to the trustees by the conveyancing solicitors previously. That shows that my father had informed the trustees of so called loans and instructed them to unilaterally amend the signed and executed loan agreement. That also proves that my father had DIRECT CONTROL over the trustees. This blows away the trustees legal independence from the settlor and makes a farce of the whole trust.

After all, when my father was well, he and I prepared the accounts of the trust and that of Adriatic Sea Corporation together and where was no issue whatsoever with any loans. So, not only are these so called extra loans nonsense but also the original loan itself. Remember that I was going through a very acrimonious divorce with Rosanna and had such a mental breakdown that I wanted to blow up Nepcote House with me in it. I was arrested for that, such is the inability of the police to properly deal with mental health issues and that is PURE FACT, not word of mouth or conjecture but PROVEN FACT.

In summary, I have enough proven fact to sue personally both Ron Downhill and  Martin for financial abuse, as well as the former for breach of professional duty of care, tying in John Marriott as apparently he was to be the successor to my father as self appointed UK representative to the trust.

I now have meagre savings, thanks to the trustees implementing the illegal amendments to the loan agreement and for also refusing to help me when I was forced to go into a very expensive private psychiatric hospital that charged over £6,500 a week.

I now turn to the main purpose of this letter.

Thanks to what my very sick father has done to me, I am now severely agoraphobic and, as a result of the immense stress that I have endured for many years now, I now suffer from a horrendous skin condition called Prurigo Nodularis. I sent a picture of my foot showing this condition to both John Marriott and Ron Downhill, whilst emailing them about my situation, emails which they have totally ignored. It has got so bad and I have had so little sleep that I was actually permitted to go to a “face to face” consultation with my GP. When he first saw it, he immediately referred me to a private dermatological clinic on the island, yet more money but I had no choice, just like previously.

I had thought about building a bungalow on the large plot of land adjacent to my house but, after a great deal of expense from planners, tree specialists and house designers, it was agreed that it was going to be nigh impossible to get planning permission. I then thought about moving to somewhere else on the island but the sad fact is that my mental and physical health would not improve, due to what the Isle of Wight police did to me on many occasions. To really improve, I have to leave the island, which in itself will be hard because of my agoraphobia.

Even if Ron Downhill and John Marriott do not care a hoot about me, Martin did at one point and was so concerned for my mental health that he sent the police around to check on me TWICE. Surely, he has not changed that much in the last few years; he is my brother after all.

I ask for no favours and no special treatment but to be treated on the same terms as Martin has been. You, after all, gave him an interest free loan to buy Granimar five years ago and let him provide insufficient security for the purchase of his new house in Bath for which he paid £1.08M plus stamp duty. I also doubt that he has repaid the deficit as Hillside Cottage sold for much less. That was why Thomas Meier was forced to “retire”. When I broached this with my father, he said that Martin had given a “personal guarantee” but that is not the way that it works in trusts, is it?

Lori also told me that once Martin had moved and had got Granimar, he made a statement to my father that “I have never been so rich before”. That says it all about the favouritism that the trust and my father has afforded to Martin.

I should remind you that under the terms of the trust deed, beneficiaries have to be paid on AN EQUAL FOOTING

Furthermore, it also says in the trust deed that there must be no diminution of capital, other than investment losses. How is it, therefore, that the three children have been paid hundreds of thousands of pounds out of capital, a clear breach of the trust deed, as well as a property bought or financed for Verity and her boyfriend. Where does it say in the trust deed that a beneficiary’s daughter, who has no right to anything under the trust deed, who threw away her law degree because she partied too much and who is starting on a new career at Curry’s is handed a property on a plate, when both I and my brother had to take out mortgages on our first homes?

As I said at the beginning of this letter, what you are doing is going against a man’s wishes that he arranged when he was well and employing his irrational demands when he is so ill that he does not know the time of day.

As Ron, John and Martin are all masons, they should understand that their loyalty is to the former man and not what he has become.

If you, the trustees, had asked my father when he was well, what do you think he would say as to the treatment of his two sons? Treat them equally, that is what he would say. Ron Downhill, Martin and John Marriott are actually breaching their loyalty to my father and though I do not prescribe to their beliefs, they are breaking their code.

He may be still Bill Hender in body but he is nothing like the man that you or I knew; Alzheimer’s has ravaged his brain and he is really not Bill Hender or my father anymore. It is not his fault that he got this dreadful disease but nothing can change the outcome now, not even with the entire wealth of the settlement

Similarly, you as trustees must act on the wishes and preparations that my father made when he was well and not those of an irrational and very sick man.

The legal and fiduciary duty of trustees is to look after the beneficiaries. You knew EXACTLY what was going on but, because the three of them control the trust, you did not afford me any help or lift a finger. You, as trustees, have broken every single rule in the book and, whilst he was able, you have taken instructions from a very sick irrational man. I even have an email saved from Andrew Lugg to say that my father’s Alzheimer’s was “not relevant”. What world does that man live in?

I cannot take actions against you yourself, because you are outside the jurisdiction of England but I can take action against all three parties who are involved in this sordid and sad affair.

I know that my father’s will was altered when he was already sick (by TWM) and that BLP refused to amend it. I am well aware that I have been probably cut out of everything and thanks to my father’s illness, have lost my birth right. My brother never stopped him out of greed.

So, I have to rely on the trust as I have no savings of worth behind me. If the trust is going to treat me so unequally, as my father has done in his will, I am being damned twice.

If you know me at all, I am not a man who loves spending tens of thousands on himself. I cannot do that because I do not have the funds to have a happy social life, like Martin.

I am not after millions but am after equality, nothing more and nothing left and am given the opportunity of being able to start a new life that has been destroyed by the actions of my father and his generals.

I hope that all of those who read this letter, read it very carefully and come to some understanding as to what pain I have suffered at the hands of my father; pain that none of you will be able to fathom.

It is not about settling a grudge or getting as much as one can get; it is about a very damaged man being helped to have a new life by the very people who have been paid large sums of money to do just that.”

Foreign aid

If the countries, to whom we give massive aid, are struggling, let them shut down the areas that are wasting money. Take India, to whom we pay millions of aid, have a multi million pound space agency and their people are staving and dying.

It is not just India as the infusion of aid into countries that need it, are totally corrupt and I expect less than 30% actually goes to the people who need it.

Our economy has been destroyed and we now owe trillions on pounds as a result of Covid so how are we going to afford to pay aid to others who need it?

More so, if this epidemic ever wanes, as it will never be over, how are we going to pay back the massive loans that we have taken out?

The Britons have always been the largest charitable contributors to anyone who needs it in the world but basic economics dictates that you cannot spend what you do not have

The penalties and the GB News (as well as probably all of the media’s) response

This whole saga is getting very conflated. I do not care if footballers are black, white, pink, yellow or brown; we are all the same underneath. That, my friends, is fact. Those who throw out racist abuse are fools, idiots and are as palatable as what I sometimes find on the bottom of my shoe.

What it really comes down to is performance, nothing more and nothing less. Natalie Elphick, who has taken a lot of stick, does have a point. If Marcus Rashford had not done all of those photo opportunities, no matter how well intentioned, he would have been on the training field. If that had been the case, maybe, just maybe, he would have got his kick within the environs of the goal and not missed it completely. If that had happened, it would have then been down to the skill and experience of the goal keeper.

Although I respect Gareth Southgate immensely, from working at the grass roots to bring into fruition what has probably been the most balanced and focused English team, I feel that he was wrong in bringing Marcus Rashford and Sanchez onto the field, purely to take penalties.

Like every team, they take time to get into the game, to settle down and wind themselves up; then they are at their best. But to drag Rashford and Sanchez off the touchline at the last minute, they had no opportunity to do that and it was inevitable that they would take poor penalties.

So the manager and the players are equally to blame.

But, because it was black players who missed the penalties, out crawls Diane Abbot from the woodwork. It is nothing about being black or white whatsoever and for people to tag on racist issues are being totally disingenuous.

As to English supporters booing the Italian national anthem, they are pure idiots, are not English as we have always believed in fair play and should never have been allowed into the stadium in the first place

Don’t do to others what you do not want done to yourself

You would have thought that is a simple statement to abide by, wouldn’t you?

But there are those in this world who just care about themselves.

Take my family or rather ex family. My father is in the advanced stages of Alzheimer’s and some would say that it is not his fault that he got it but, given what he has done to me, I see that as his penance and his punishment.

Every single one of them has just thought about themselves, even though I used to love them all. They have watched as I have been slowly picked apart, all for a few bits of silver. Are they proud of themselves? I very much doubt that they even care, as long as they get tons of money or houses or whatever they fancy.

As all of you know, my father is a mason. At one time, he was generous and helped me and even made me a beneficiary of a trust that I now solely rely on because my career collapsed and what I got in compensation was not only derisory but was spent on the two people who I loved beyond all else; my wife, Liesel and my daughter. Now, I have nothing left other than being forced to live in a prison.

Those lackies who my father dealt with, were also masons and they took instructions from a man with a very diseased mind. I even wrote to them pointing this out but has anything changed? Of course not, as their pathetic misguided loyalty to a very sick man is more important than the harm done to a human being, i.e. me

Would they do what they have done to me to their own children? Of course they would not as they are not only hypocritical but morally crippled. The word “cripple” is not a word used today but that describes them all, including my very own daughter. If she has children, is she going to guide them into immorality as she herself has behaved. Who knows and quite frankly, I dont care.

After she found out that she was not going to be allowed to my cremation, she went running to my father and complained. This was after she took money from my father to incentivise her to falsely accuse me of sexual abuse; probably the most heinous crime save for killing someone. But she did it gladly for the sake of what? A fancy holiday in Scotland with her mother. I have since relented on that and she can come but only on her own with no other family or partners or whoever. Even though I have now made special arrangements for her, I very much doubt that she will turn up on her own, as she has always hidden behind the skirts of her mother or my father for support.

I will die soon; the sooner the better as far as I am concerned. I will be burned to ashes, which will then be scattered in my beloved South Africa. There will be then no more sign that I even existed and, given what my family have done to me, that is just fine by me; I wish it had been otherwise. Everything is ready for me to die; all provisions have been catered for. It is just a question of time now.

What gets me is that those lackies are intelligent men and they have been successful in their fields but they are so blinkered that they cannot get their heads around the fact that they have been dealing with a diseased minded man for many years and all, including my self centred and incredibly greedy brother and daughter have used his disease to their full advantage; to get lots of money or stuff.

Society is a pretty sick place these days but to have a family who have done that to their own blood is quite frankly unfathomable, given the generosity and love that both my brother and daughter have shown in the past.

I have no idea when I will die but you will get an indication because all of a sudden this blog will go dead, because that is what I will be, DEAD