Berwin Leighton Paisner ignored the fact that my father had Alzheimer’s

William Thomas Hender: date of birth 28th November 1930
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David Hender
Mon 29/08/2016 11:52
Ron Downhill (Berwin Leighton);
John Marriott (Private)

Dear Mrs Mayhew,

The above person is my father and he is one of Mr Downhill’s longstanding clients, whom I have also had countless dealings over the years, particularly to do with the family trust that is run by Paicolex, a Swiss company that is associated with Berwin Leighton Paisner.

He was sadly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s over three years ago and his behaviour has become particularly dysfunctional, especially towards me and my cousin over the last year.

He advised me approximately 6 months ago that he was going to have a new will prepared that would effectively cut me out of the will in favour of my brother, Martin William Hender and possibly my daughter, Verity Jade Beatrice Hender.

I have now learned that this “new” will has not yet been signed and/or witnessed and given that my father no longer sadly has full mental capacity, he is legally prevented from making a new will.

My father and Mr Downhill have had a very close working relationship over many years and I wish to register my concern that Mr Downhill will let my father have a new will lodged, despite his lack of mental capacity. I have also learned that my father is also a mason despite him denying this for many years and it may be that Mr Downhill is one also, which would mean that he would allegedly have an “obligation” to secure the completion of the new will.

I understand that my father will be seeing Mr Downhill shortly to secure the completion of the new will and I would like to respectfully point out to you that such an act would be illegal and the will would be void.

My brother and I were attorneys for both his welfare and financial/personal affairs and he, as a result of his illness, has allegedly had my POAs rescinded. I have written to the Office of the Public Guardian to determine as to whether this is true and, if so, to have it overturned due to his lack of mental capacity. I will go to court if it is necessary.

With regard to the “new” will, I did speak to Mr Downhill over this and he said that “in such a circumstance, I would have to go to court to have it overturned”. Indeed, Mr Downhill was bluffing insofar that the supposed new will had not even been ratified, even though it cannot be legally done so.

Mr Downhill has been extremely helpful to me over the years, particularly in dealing with the family trust but I am afraid to say that this crosses the red line.

I am prepared for this to be dealt with “in house” but if this debacle is not stopped, I will have no hesitation but to contact the Solicitors Regulatory Authority.

It is a case in point that my mother, Betty Hender, suffered from Alzheimer’s and even though at the time, her Alzheimer’s was not as advanced as my father’s currently is, was prevented by Mr John Marriott, my father’s financial advisor, from being a joint settlor to a UK trust due to her lack of mental capacity. Hence, Mr Marriott was complying with the law and the strict ethical code by which he has always worked under.

I am fully aware that Mr Downhill has retired as a partner and now acts as a consultant but is still bound by the ethical code under which Berwin Leighton Paisner operates as a law firm as he acts as a consultant to BLP. Furthermore, he must still abide by the ethical code set down by the Law Society.

I would suggest that the way that my father will get around his lack of mental capacity is to have the will to “pre date” his diagnosis of Alzheimer’s and to have his PA or another employee of BLP to agree to witness this “pre dated” document. If my suggestion is realised, I would further suggest that previous copies, of my father’s will, will be destroyed.

I am sure that you appreciate this is an extremely serious position but I now have no other course but to contact you as the Managing Partner of the firm. Given the serious nature of this issue, I should be grateful of a response by Wednesday 31st August.

Thanking you for your kind attention in this matter.

Yours sincerely,

David Hender A.C.A.
RE: William Thomas Hender: date of birth 28th November 1930
You replied on Thu 01/09/2016 10:11
Lisa Mayhew <Lisa.Mayhew@xxxxxxxx>
Thu 01/09/2016 09:15
Ron Downhill;
John Marriott (Private)

Dear Mr Hender

Thank you for your email dated 29 August 2016.

I will make enquiries and thereafter take such action as may be appropriate.

Yours sincerely

Lisa Mayhew | Berwin Leighton Paisner LLP
Managing Partner

Re: William Thomas Hender: date of birth 28th November 1930
David Hender
Thu 01/09/2016 10:11
Lisa Mayhew

Dear Mrs Mayhew,

As I am sure you appreciate, I am deeply concerned about this turn of events but I have great confidence that you will ensure that this debacle never takes place.

I look forward to an update from you in due course.

Yours sincerely,

The behaviour of Paicolex Trust Management AG and Berwin Leighton Paisner
You forwarded this message on Fri 11/01/2019 15:40
David Hender
Fri 11/01/2019 13:17
Andrew Lugg (Paicolex Chairman);
Clare Edwards (Paicolex);
Lisa Mayhew Managing Partner Berwin Leighton;
Ron Downhill
+1 other
Dear Mr Lugg,
I have now proved to you that these so called additions to the outstanding loan are not only contrary to the loan agreement, a scanned copy of which I have on one of my computers but are a tissue of lies as it was impossible for the trust/ASC to loan me any money at all as the said purchase of Long Barn was made prior to the sale of Vendcrown/Premium Credit Limited to MBNA.
I have also shown that my father was not only an indirect settlor via Michael Harold Cobb, a person of South African domicile but was also a direct settlor to the tune of £500,000,as my father’s instructions were misinterpreted.
Any settlor, whether direct or otherwise has no right to determine how the trust is to be run. That duty falls to the appointed trustees, in this case being Paicolex Trust Management AG. The trustees have a primary duty of care to run the trust both fairly and equitably and have a further duty of care, to current and future beneficiaries, to protect the assets of the trust.
It was, for this reason, that I reported Thomas Meier to Lisa Mayhew, who holds ultimate responsibility for the proper and professional running of both Berwin Leighton Paisner and Paicolex Trust Management AG. Shortly after my reporting of Mr Meier to Lisa Mayhew, Thomas Meier announced his “retirement” as he had failed in his duty of care to protect the assets of the trust and, in this case, that monies had been loaned to my brother with either no security or inadequate security. I compare this to the monies that the trust loaned me, which have 300% security.
Both you and Clare Edwards have failed in your duty of care to treat both beneficiaries on an equal footing and have taken the word of my father, who has no legal power over either of you. He has, with both your agreements, tried to insert unsecured soft loans, owed to him personally and repayable on his death, into monies owed to the trust by me. You have thus failed me, as a beneficiary, to treat me equitably and thus you have both failed in your primary duty of care to me, as beneficiary.
Paicolex Trust Management AG has thus totally failed in its duty of care to the trust and I will be calling for your and Clare Edwards dismissal. As Lisa Mayhew holds ultimate responsibility for both BLP and Paicolex, I will also be calling for her dismissal and will notify Brian Cave, BLP’s merger partners of this grave and serious breach of duty of care.
You have also conspired with my father to insert clauses that were not in the agreement that I signed. You, as chairman of the corporate trustees or indeed Clare Edwards, a fully qualified solicitor, could quite easily have checked with the loan agreement, a hard copy of which was returned by me to Paicolex but you both just took both my father’s word and his instructions, which is yet another failure in your duty of care as trustees.
Unbeknownst to you and Clare Edwards, my father entered into a verbal contract for the “family” to purchase a suitable property for Rosanna in the case that she and I divorced. This was witnessed by me in the kitchen of Long Barn shortly before our marriage. Whether Rosanna actually planned the whole divorce and was a gold digger is irrelevant as what is relevant is that the “family” should have paid for a new home for her and not me; indeed the loan amount that is outstanding more of less equals the amount of money that was awarded to her and which I paid by way of a loan from the trust/ASC.
I will not only swear an affidavit that this verbal contract was undertaken but will swear in court to the same effect
I am an honourable man and have always paid all of my debts and it is right that my father personally repay the loan to the trust and to provide compensation to Rosanna for the monies that awarded to her but were limited by my lack of capital and to me for the interest that I have paid, since the divorce, on the £180,000. To this effect, I will be forwarding this email to Rosanna.
But the matter gets gravely worse in that Ron Downhill concocted a scheme that would repay the loan over a period of time. Not only was this scheme illegal but was against the advice that he gave to me in 2015. The “so called” repayment scheme is patently illegal and I will be demanding that he is dismissed as a consultant. In addition, I will write to the SRA demanding that he be struck off.
Lisa Mayhew was aware of most of these matters but she chose to ignore them. She is thus as culpable as you, Clare Edwards and Ron Downhill, which provides further evidence that she should be dismissed.
I also have definitive proof that BLP and Ron Downhill constructed tax evasion exercises for my father, Leon Du Toit Stoffberg and Michael Harold Cobb. Whilst the “donkey work” was undertaken by Quentin Solt, an old friend of mine, it was signed off by Ron Downhill. Likewise the financial “donkey work” with relation to the management buy out was undertaken by me but on the instructions of the core directors of Vendcrown / Premium Credit. But it should be noted that the only core director who was against the tax evasion was the late Colin Ringrose who informed me personally that he had paid all of his tax and he had been disinterested in any clever tax scheme.
I will also be demanding full disclosure of the accounts of Adriatic Sea Corporation to see just how much extra has been paid to my brother. I can do nothing about the extra monies that were paid to my brother personally by my father although I suspect that this was actually a bribe to hide his suspected abuse of not only my daughter but also that of my two nieces.
Even my father has tried to bribe me, by offering me £250,000 to move to South Africa on the condition that I surrender my Harwyn (the family company) shares. But my father has totally underestimated my moral standing and I will not give into bullying tactics or bribes.
This will be published on my blog for the world to see, once this email has been sent.
My father confessed to me that he was “obsessed by money” and he has used this to rip the family apart and to split me from the only person I now care about, my daughter
I am sure that my father sleeps soundly but I just wonder how you, Clare Edwards, Lisa Mayhew do? I have no knowledge as to whether any of you have children and do not care but, if you do, I wonder if you could do this to a son or daughter and whether any of you sleep soundly or that you just treat it as “doing business”.
Your complaint
Gaby Kaiser <Gaby.Kaiser@xxxxxxx>
Fri 16/03/2018 13:28

Dear Mr Hender

I refer to your email dated 10 March addressed to me and also to your further emails of 11, 12 and 13 March to which either I or Ms Mayhew were copied.   I have also now seen your three emails of today.

As regards your email to me, please note the following:

1.     Your reference to requesting details of correspondence is not understood. In my email of 7 March, I did not make any reference to correspondence.  What I said, and this remains the position, is that any “issues pertaining to the management of Paicolex and/or BLP LLP are confidential and will not be discussed with you”.

2.     Your comments regarding Ms Mayhew are both inaccurate and misconceived.  Ms Mayhew is perfectly entitled to delegate certain matters to other senior members of the firm and I am liaising with Ms Mayhew as appropriate regarding your demands.  In any case, we remain of the view that it is not appropriate or necessary to Ms Mayhew to attend a meeting with you.

3.     Your comments in relation to Paicolex are noted but not agreed.

It is regrettable that you appear to have rejected Paicolex’s proposal to meet to discuss any pertinent issues relating to the trust and I hope that, on reflection, you will revise your stance. I understand that Clare Edwards of Paicolex will be writing to you with a further invitation to meet her at which it is anticipated that Mr Downhill would be in attendance as the trustee’s legal adviser.

I should say, however, that it is not appropriate to demand to meet Mr Downhill at his private home and nor is it helpful or appropriate to threaten BLP and/or Paicolex and/or the individuals to whom you refer in your various emails unless they capitulate to your demands. I strongly suggest that you obtain independent legal advice in relation to such matters as a matter of priority.

Yours sincerely

Gaby Kaiser (she has now left Berwin Leighton and I do not blame her)

Private & Confidential

You replied on Fri 05/10/2018 19:54
Gaby Kaiser <gaby.kaiser@xxxxxxxxx>
Fri 05/10/2018 16:28

A letter to the trustees

Anyone who knows me knows what I have been through, with the collapse of my career. Lat year, I wanted to kill myself as it had just got too much and all of the stress has caused huge effects to my body, such as my horrendous skin condition, which means that I am in pain 24/7 and I have sleepless and broken nights. Here is a picture of how my foot looks

Digital Camera

Out of sheer desperation, I have written this letter to the trustees, highlighting the unfair treatment between my brother and I. Here is the letter, which was painful to write and will be painful to read.

“The trustees of the Hender Family Settlement

By email only

18th July 2021

Dear trustees,

Thanks to information from Lori Cameron, I am now well aware that my father is in the advanced stage of Alzheimer’s and that my brother has taken over all of his financial and personal matters and that he, Ron Downhill and John Marriott are all masons.

When I was staying at Lori’s house, she made me aware that there was a concerted effort to have me removed as a beneficiary of the trust; the parties involved being my father, my brother, John Marriott and Ron Downhill. This meeting took place in the chambers of a masonic lodge that is below the current offices of Bryan Cave Berwin Leighton in London. I have this conversation recorded on my laptop, unbeknownst to Lori, who I have never really trusted, as she has continually sat on the fence, playing to me and to my father/brother for her own benefit. If questioned, Lori will deny saying that but she will also confirm that I had my laptop open at all times, as I was working to find a solution to have a better life and also managing my affairs remotely, which is so easy to do these days.

But Ron Downhill could not break the trust deed, as when my father was well, he made it so watertight for Martin and I that provision would ALWAYS be made for us ON AN EQUAL BASIS. Then we died, it would pass to our children. THAT WAS WHAT HE WANTED FOR BOTH OF HIS BOYS, when he was free of his disease anyway.

Given that you can do basically whatever you like with regards to my distribution, I have kept my powder dry on this matter. This is unequivocally financial abuse and is easily proved.

I did not remember the conversation that my father had with Rosanna at the time of the execution of the loan agreement, as I was still suffering from the effects of the divorce and could not think straight, but remembered it two years later. The “proper loan” that is supposedly due to the trust is as a result of my father’s breach of a verbal contract with Rosanna and also a breach of a promise, both of which are recognised in law and legally binding on my father and/or his estate. If the trustees took a moral stance, they would have ignored the £180,000 or so and would have sought repayment from my father. Given my father’s advancing illness, after two years, they sought to tack on extra debt, which was at the whim of my now sick father.

My father did not disclose it either at the court hearing and, as although he has always said that he has a much better memory than me, he purposely failed to disclose to the court the arrangement that he had with Rosanna. Given that his appearance in court was some years before his actual diagnosis of Alzheimer’s, it is obvious that he broke his oath and committed perjury. I have already provided a “sworn” affidavit to this effect. As I am not religious, I cannot, in all good conscience, swear an oath and thus affirmed my affidavit. Regardless of whether it is a sworn or an affirmation, if the affidavit proves to be false, I can be imprisoned for perjury but, as the statement that I made in front of a notary was true, that is academic.

There is also the issue of my sexual abuse by my father when I was 8 and which I endured it until 12 or 13. I did report my father to the police last year but thanks to his masonic connections, it was buried by the Metropolitan Police. I am pushing GB News to disclose the attitude of the police towards male sexual abuse and have communicated with Andrew Neil personally on this matter. He is minded to produce a programme, on his return, to blow this issue wide open and, if you are aware of GB News, he does not hold back. After all, he tore Richi Sunak apart in the first week of airing.

If Martin has a good memory, he will remember that when we were on holiday, I suddenly could not wear trousers and had to stay in my room in the evenings. On our return, my mother had all of my school trousers lined with silk. This was a precursor to the effects of abuse that I now constantly suffer.

As if that was not enough, I have a telephone conversation with my father, admitting to inciting my daughter to accuse me of sexual abuse, on my Dictaphone. Given what I knew about my so called family’s dishonesty, I could not trust anyone and so all telephone conversations with my father were recorded for my own protection.

Let us turn to Ron Downhill, who swore blind on an email that he was not a mason. If he had nothing to hide, why deny it as the masonic institution is, after all, a proscribed organisation, much to my disgust and moral standards.

He is the tax and legal advisor to the trustees and is thankfully under English legal jurisdiction. I even know where he lives thanks to the power of the internet and Companies House Beta; you just have to dig a little.

Ronald Edwards Downhill lives at xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

(It is also fortuitous that Martin, my biological brother, also lives in England and is subject to English jurisdiction)

Given that Ron Downhill is the tax and legal advisor of the trustees, the trustees are legally prevented from effecting any change to original arrangements, WITHOUT his authority.

As the trustees are in breach of their duties by acting on arrangement changes that are contrary to ANY legal agreement, the actions of providing advice to the trustees, which was illegal, constitutes the incitement of financial abuse against me.

Indeed, with regards to the arrangement with Rosanna, Ron Downhill was in attendance at the court hearing (but not present in court) to give legal advice to both my father and Thomas Meier, for which he charged at fortune. He was professionally responsible for giving the proper advice and for also asking questions of my father, such as “were there any fall back arrangements for financing Rosanna in the case of a divorce?”. He clearly failed to ask these questions and so was highly negligent in providing poor advice and not asking the right questions. My father told me that he charged £30,000 for the day.

Given that Ron Downhill was present at both the divorce hearing and at the insidious meeting to try and get me removed from the trust, he has not only been negligent but committed financial abuse against me and that can be proven.

However, Ron Downhill’s attitude towards me may also be down to the demise of his best friend, Thomas Meier and so he has just “got the hump”. IF this is the case, then he is being very churlish.

As a forensic Chartered Accountant, I exposed the arrangements that were made for Martin and that they were contrary to the fiduciary responsibilities as a trustee, namely Thomas Meier.

I was, as a beneficiary, well in my rights to complain about his actions and that they were unfair and, as a result of my complaint, he was sacked or as BLP put it, he “retired”, although he is still a member of the Swiss Trust Association and I am quite sure provides consultancy to Paicolex at a very high fee. After all, he has his own consultancy business (TEM Consulting).

I can also prove the direct link between my father and the trustees, then supervised by Thomas Meier. For two years, he agreed to all of my calculations for loan interest and was in full agreement of the capital that was due.

If there had been any other loans outstanding, Thomas would have insisted that I amended my capital (and interest) calculations. After all, he had access to ALL of the details of property transactions, actually far more than me, as EVERYTHING was sent to the him by the conveyancing solicitors.

So why, when coincidentally, he was superceded by Claire Edwards and my father was diagnosed as having Alzheimer’s, did everything suddenly change? Loans appeared out of nowhere, completely contrary to all of the documents that were sent to the trustees by the conveyancing solicitors previously. That shows that my father had informed the trustees of so called loans and instructed them to unilaterally amend the signed and executed loan agreement. That also proves that my father had DIRECT CONTROL over the trustees. This blows away the trustees legal independence from the settlor and makes a farce of the whole trust.

After all, when my father was well, he and I prepared the accounts of the trust and that of Adriatic Sea Corporation together and where was no issue whatsoever with any loans. So, not only are these so called extra loans nonsense but also the original loan itself. Remember that I was going through a very acrimonious divorce with Rosanna and had such a mental breakdown that I wanted to blow up Nepcote House with me in it. I was arrested for that, such is the inability of the police to properly deal with mental health issues and that is PURE FACT, not word of mouth or conjecture but PROVEN FACT.

In summary, I have enough proven fact to sue personally both Ron Downhill and  Martin for financial abuse, as well as the former for breach of professional duty of care, tying in John Marriott as apparently he was to be the successor to my father as self appointed UK representative to the trust.

I now have meagre savings, thanks to the trustees implementing the illegal amendments to the loan agreement and for also refusing to help me when I was forced to go into a very expensive private psychiatric hospital that charged over £6,500 a week.

I now turn to the main purpose of this letter.

Thanks to what my very sick father has done to me, I am now severely agoraphobic and, as a result of the immense stress that I have endured for many years now, I now suffer from a horrendous skin condition called Prurigo Nodularis. I sent a picture of my foot showing this condition to both John Marriott and Ron Downhill, whilst emailing them about my situation, emails which they have totally ignored. It has got so bad and I have had so little sleep that I was actually permitted to go to a “face to face” consultation with my GP. When he first saw it, he immediately referred me to a private dermatological clinic on the island, yet more money but I had no choice, just like previously.

I had thought about building a bungalow on the large plot of land adjacent to my house but, after a great deal of expense from planners, tree specialists and house designers, it was agreed that it was going to be nigh impossible to get planning permission. I then thought about moving to somewhere else on the island but the sad fact is that my mental and physical health would not improve, due to what the Isle of Wight police did to me on many occasions. To really improve, I have to leave the island, which in itself will be hard because of my agoraphobia.

Even if Ron Downhill and John Marriott do not care a hoot about me, Martin did at one point and was so concerned for my mental health that he sent the police around to check on me TWICE. Surely, he has not changed that much in the last few years; he is my brother after all.

I ask for no favours and no special treatment but to be treated on the same terms as Martin has been. You, after all, gave him an interest free loan to buy Granimar five years ago and let him provide insufficient security for the purchase of his new house in Bath for which he paid £1.08M plus stamp duty. I also doubt that he has repaid the deficit as Hillside Cottage sold for much less. That was why Thomas Meier was forced to “retire”. When I broached this with my father, he said that Martin had given a “personal guarantee” but that is not the way that it works in trusts, is it?

Lori also told me that once Martin had moved and had got Granimar, he made a statement to my father that “I have never been so rich before”. That says it all about the favouritism that the trust and my father has afforded to Martin.

I should remind you that under the terms of the trust deed, beneficiaries have to be paid on AN EQUAL FOOTING

Furthermore, it also says in the trust deed that there must be no diminution of capital, other than investment losses. How is it, therefore, that the three children have been paid hundreds of thousands of pounds out of capital, a clear breach of the trust deed, as well as a property bought or financed for Verity and her boyfriend. Where does it say in the trust deed that a beneficiary’s daughter, who has no right to anything under the trust deed, who threw away her law degree because she partied too much and who is starting on a new career at Curry’s is handed a property on a plate, when both I and my brother had to take out mortgages on our first homes?

As I said at the beginning of this letter, what you are doing is going against a man’s wishes that he arranged when he was well and employing his irrational demands when he is so ill that he does not know the time of day.

As Ron, John and Martin are all masons, they should understand that their loyalty is to the former man and not what he has become.

If you, the trustees, had asked my father when he was well, what do you think he would say as to the treatment of his two sons? Treat them equally, that is what he would say. Ron Downhill, Martin and John Marriott are actually breaching their loyalty to my father and though I do not prescribe to their beliefs, they are breaking their code.

He may be still Bill Hender in body but he is nothing like the man that you or I knew; Alzheimer’s has ravaged his brain and he is really not Bill Hender or my father anymore. It is not his fault that he got this dreadful disease but nothing can change the outcome now, not even with the entire wealth of the settlement

Similarly, you as trustees must act on the wishes and preparations that my father made when he was well and not those of an irrational and very sick man.

The legal and fiduciary duty of trustees is to look after the beneficiaries. You knew EXACTLY what was going on but, because the three of them control the trust, you did not afford me any help or lift a finger. You, as trustees, have broken every single rule in the book and, whilst he was able, you have taken instructions from a very sick irrational man. I even have an email saved from Andrew Lugg to say that my father’s Alzheimer’s was “not relevant”. What world does that man live in?

I cannot take actions against you yourself, because you are outside the jurisdiction of England but I can take action against all three parties who are involved in this sordid and sad affair.

I know that my father’s will was altered when he was already sick (by TWM) and that BLP refused to amend it. I am well aware that I have been probably cut out of everything and thanks to my father’s illness, have lost my birth right. My brother never stopped him out of greed.

So, I have to rely on the trust as I have no savings of worth behind me. If the trust is going to treat me so unequally, as my father has done in his will, I am being damned twice.

If you know me at all, I am not a man who loves spending tens of thousands on himself. I cannot do that because I do not have the funds to have a happy social life, like Martin.

I am not after millions but am after equality, nothing more and nothing left and am given the opportunity of being able to start a new life that has been destroyed by the actions of my father and his generals.

I hope that all of those who read this letter, read it very carefully and come to some understanding as to what pain I have suffered at the hands of my father; pain that none of you will be able to fathom.

It is not about settling a grudge or getting as much as one can get; it is about a very damaged man being helped to have a new life by the very people who have been paid large sums of money to do just that.”

Foreign aid

If the countries, to whom we give massive aid, are struggling, let them shut down the areas that are wasting money. Take India, to whom we pay millions of aid, have a multi million pound space agency and their people are staving and dying.

It is not just India as the infusion of aid into countries that need it, are totally corrupt and I expect less than 30% actually goes to the people who need it.

Our economy has been destroyed and we now owe trillions on pounds as a result of Covid so how are we going to afford to pay aid to others who need it?

More so, if this epidemic ever wanes, as it will never be over, how are we going to pay back the massive loans that we have taken out?

The Britons have always been the largest charitable contributors to anyone who needs it in the world but basic economics dictates that you cannot spend what you do not have

The penalties and the GB News (as well as probably all of the media’s) response

This whole saga is getting very conflated. I do not care if footballers are black, white, pink, yellow or brown; we are all the same underneath. That, my friends, is fact. Those who throw out racist abuse are fools, idiots and are as palatable as what I sometimes find on the bottom of my shoe.

What it really comes down to is performance, nothing more and nothing less. Natalie Elphick, who has taken a lot of stick, does have a point. If Marcus Rashford had not done all of those photo opportunities, no matter how well intentioned, he would have been on the training field. If that had been the case, maybe, just maybe, he would have got his kick within the environs of the goal and not missed it completely. If that had happened, it would have then been down to the skill and experience of the goal keeper.

Although I respect Gareth Southgate immensely, from working at the grass roots to bring into fruition what has probably been the most balanced and focused English team, I feel that he was wrong in bringing Marcus Rashford and Sanchez onto the field, purely to take penalties.

Like every team, they take time to get into the game, to settle down and wind themselves up; then they are at their best. But to drag Rashford and Sanchez off the touchline at the last minute, they had no opportunity to do that and it was inevitable that they would take poor penalties.

So the manager and the players are equally to blame.

But, because it was black players who missed the penalties, out crawls Diane Abbot from the woodwork. It is nothing about being black or white whatsoever and for people to tag on racist issues are being totally disingenuous.

As to English supporters booing the Italian national anthem, they are pure idiots, are not English as we have always believed in fair play and should never have been allowed into the stadium in the first place

Don’t do to others what you do not want done to yourself

You would have thought that is a simple statement to abide by, wouldn’t you?

But there are those in this world who just care about themselves.

Take my family or rather ex family. My father is in the advanced stages of Alzheimer’s and some would say that it is not his fault that he got it but, given what he has done to me, I see that as his penance and his punishment.

Every single one of them has just thought about themselves, even though I used to love them all. They have watched as I have been slowly picked apart, all for a few bits of silver. Are they proud of themselves? I very much doubt that they even care, as long as they get tons of money or houses or whatever they fancy.

As all of you know, my father is a mason. At one time, he was generous and helped me and even made me a beneficiary of a trust that I now solely rely on because my career collapsed and what I got in compensation was not only derisory but was spent on the two people who I loved beyond all else; my wife, Liesel and my daughter. Now, I have nothing left other than being forced to live in a prison.

Those lackies who my father dealt with, were also masons and they took instructions from a man with a very diseased mind. I even wrote to them pointing this out but has anything changed? Of course not, as their pathetic misguided loyalty to a very sick man is more important than the harm done to a human being, i.e. me

Would they do what they have done to me to their own children? Of course they would not as they are not only hypocritical but morally crippled. The word “cripple” is not a word used today but that describes them all, including my very own daughter. If she has children, is she going to guide them into immorality as she herself has behaved. Who knows and quite frankly, I dont care.

After she found out that she was not going to be allowed to my cremation, she went running to my father and complained. This was after she took money from my father to incentivise her to falsely accuse me of sexual abuse; probably the most heinous crime save for killing someone. But she did it gladly for the sake of what? A fancy holiday in Scotland with her mother. I have since relented on that and she can come but only on her own with no other family or partners or whoever. Even though I have now made special arrangements for her, I very much doubt that she will turn up on her own, as she has always hidden behind the skirts of her mother or my father for support.

I will die soon; the sooner the better as far as I am concerned. I will be burned to ashes, which will then be scattered in my beloved South Africa. There will be then no more sign that I even existed and, given what my family have done to me, that is just fine by me; I wish it had been otherwise. Everything is ready for me to die; all provisions have been catered for. It is just a question of time now.

What gets me is that those lackies are intelligent men and they have been successful in their fields but they are so blinkered that they cannot get their heads around the fact that they have been dealing with a diseased minded man for many years and all, including my self centred and incredibly greedy brother and daughter have used his disease to their full advantage; to get lots of money or stuff.

Society is a pretty sick place these days but to have a family who have done that to their own blood is quite frankly unfathomable, given the generosity and love that both my brother and daughter have shown in the past.

I have no idea when I will die but you will get an indication because all of a sudden this blog will go dead, because that is what I will be, DEAD

Something strange is going on

Those who know me will know that I am highly spiritual and that is reflected in the provisions for my funeral. Though many will think I am strange, misguided or a nutter, I believe that my beloved wife, Liesel, who left this earth 14 years ago this December, is still with me and is caring for me.

I feel that she is guiding me in a certain way to improve my life and whilst I do not always understand what or why she is doing, I feel that she has a plan for me.

I rely heavily on my computer as I hate the telephone and I have to say that strange things seem to have been happening.

This is a screenshot from my laptop that is linked to my television and, on occasions, even though I can watch a specific programme, if I want to go onto another website, it will say that is not accessible. #

Just look at this screenshot, where my internet is not connected but it is still running a programme, such as a news channel. Believe it or not but it is not photoshopped or altered in any way. Whether you believe me is up to you.

I have to say that even if it is Liesel who is fiddling with my computer, it is bloody frustrating and makes me so angry that I shout at the screen from time to time

Physics tells you that energy cannot be destroyed, only changed into another form; that is a scientific fact.

Maybe, a body, when it dies, transfers its brain “energy” into another form. That is what I and many millions of people believe.

It is up to you to decide if I am a crank.

After all, many people speak to their god and no one blinks an eye but if you are not religious, but highly spiritual, and talk to a late loved one, you are considered to be a fruitcake. It is one rule for one group of people and another for the rest

The feminisation of society and GB News

I have just watched a segment on the Guto Hari show where a woman was touting her new book. She said continually that women were “overrun” and “talked over”. What lot of rubbish.

I have dealt with multiple solicitors of big firms and the head of all of them were women. If you just look at the news, everyone that is interviewed is the head of this or that and they are all women.

I do not doubt their competence but for this so called author to say that in this day and age, women are hard done by is crap.

The justice system, the police, the political classes. All defer to the female gender.

When will people, including GB News, who should know better, actually realise that we now live in a female biased society and have done so for decades. Men are seen as potential paedophiles and always get longer sentences than a woman who has committed the same crime.

I cannot live in such an unbalanced society; that is why I want to die

“Have your say on GB News” Bollocks. They just read out want they want to

Oh and all of the sofa is filled by women except, maybe, a presenter. So much for BALANCE

My new will

My new will has now been signed, witnessed and executed, together with the confirmation of my funeral wishes; I am allowing Verity to attend but only on her own; no exceptions. Otherwise, she will not be allowed in.

My executor and best friend, Nick, will hand to Verity, at the service, a sealed envelope from me; he does not not know what is in it, only I do

I can now have a little more rest

The assault of Professor Chris Whitty

The person who put Chris Whitty in a headlock has been sacked. I am pleased as people have to understand that there are consequences to their actions.

GB News had an employment lawyer on to discuss the sacking. She said that as it was outside his employment, he should not have been sacked and had a claim against his employer. That may be true from a legal point of view but she is not in the real world.

Business is all about image these days and no employer would want that scumbag working for them.

But there is another issue. If Professor Chris Whitty had been a woman, those yobs would have been instantly arrested, no doubt about it and that employment lawyer would have taken a completely different approach to the sacking.

As to the police supposedly intervening, that is complete cobblers. As Professor Whitty was a man, they did not intervene otherwise it would have been on the video. Yet again, another example of the police’s divergent attitude to male and female victims.

Some may call me a misogynist but I could not care a damn. Unless you are totally blind, you know that men are treated completely differently from women when it comes to the media and the attitude of the police. If you do not realise that, you were born under a rock.

I should know; I experienced the sexually discrimatory attitude of the police and the justice system. It has destroyed my life


For so many reasons, I am unable to work.

When my father was free from Alzheimer’s, he set up a trust fund for my brother and I. When we died, it would pass onto our children and so on. Because I am unable to work, I rely on the income that I get from the fund in order to sustain my life.

Everything went well for a while and then my father got Alzheimer’s; he completely changed his attitude towards me and I was seen as the enemy. Whilst it was not his fault, he has always favoured my brother and has continued to throw money at him every since.

I am not just talking about a few thousand pounds; I am talking about millions. He gave my brother £1.25M of his own money as so called “advanced inheritance” but all this really was was hush money to cover up the sexual abuse by my father of one or both of my brother’s daughter’s.

My father’s paedophilic tendancies are not new as he sexually abused me between the age of 8 and 12/13. That horrible event had been buried deep in my mind but when my daughter falsely accused me of sexual abuse in 2016, those awful memories started to slowly emerge.

It has had a horrendous effect on both my mental and physical health. Mentally, it has made me very depressed, agoraphobic and sometimes suicidal. Last year, I ended up in a private psychiatric hospital, because the waiting lists for NHS help were too long. I could ill afford to pay this but I had no choice and when I sought help from the trust to recoup my savings, they refused; that was on my father’s instructions.

It is a bit of a joke because the trustees of a trust are there solely to assist in the welfare of the beneficiaries and are supposed to be independent. But, in the real world, that never happens at all. The person who put the money in, controls the funds like his tax free piggy bank. For my father, that amounts to around £20m to play with; roughly half of that should have been paid in tax, interest and penalties. That is on top of his personal wealth that also runs into millions.

In his Alzheimer’s fueled state, he decided to give my brother a £1.45M interest free loan via the trust, which my brother used to buy an industrial property. So, on top of having to pay no interest, my brother, Martin, also rakes in tens of thousands of rent every year.

So, my brother has received £2.7M of interest free cash plus the huge rental income of course.

When I begged the trustees to help recoup the cost of the hospital, which amounted to “just” £20,000, they just said “no” as I had “sufficient income already”. Double standards? Of course it is.

So, I had no choice but to leave the hospital and book into a Travelodge at a mere fraction of the £6,500 that I was paying for the hospital. This was last June and in the midst of the pandemic so the hotel was full of drug dealers and unsavoury characters. I had to keep myself to myself and was holed up in my room for most of the time.

If you remember, that was a very hot summer and there was no air conditioning at all. That exacerbated my skin condition that was triggered by the false sexual abuse allegations. To give you some idea of the pain, this is my foot, which is covered with nodules. Although I thought it was psoriasis, it now seems that it is something called Prurigo Nodularis, again a stress related condition that was triggered by those false sexual abuse claims

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Incidentally, my daughter was “incentivised” by my father in 2016, by the paying of cash to go on a luxury Scottish holiday with her mother. Lovely eh?

If that was not enough, before the pandemic even hit, in 2018, my father wrote me a letter, to be purposely received on my birthday, offering me £250,000 to leave the UK permanently and to go to South Africa, with which I have many ties. He just wanted me out of the way and away from the trust.

I was categorically told that my father had a meeting with my brother, Ron Downhill and John Marriott (who I will come onto later) to actually get me removed from the trust as a beneficiary. If that had happened, I would have gone bankrupt and homeless very quickly. None of them cared because they had one thing in common; they were all masons and, as we all know, masons stick together like glue.

No one in that room even considered for one moment what the impact on me would have been and though I strongly suspect that my brother, Martin, had a different agenda, they never even considered for one moment the fact that they were dealing with an Alzheimer’s suffering man, who was, for all intense and purposes, out of his mind. Ron Downhill and John Marriott were being “loyal” to an Alzheimer’s suffering man, who was not thinking straight. I wrote to them recently pointing this out but they have completely ignored me, preferring to rest on their masonic loyalties than actually to see reason.

If my father did not want me in the trust in the first place, he would not have included me as a beneficiary but Downhill and Marriott’s actions are completely nonsensical. They are intelligent men ( I have dealt with them both for years) but they are just blinded by the masonic loyalty and applying that to their complete lack of judgement.

Of course, my father engineered it that my brother now runs the show and, as my father is now severely incapacitated with Alzheimer’s, has access to my father’s personal wealth as well as all of the funds in the trust. Maybe it is that Downhill and Marriott are cowards and do not want to go against my brother; masonic loyalty and common sense aside. If they did, my brother is likely to find someone who will agree with him and, of course, money talks and persuades people to do things that they do not want to do.

Martin, my brother, is well known for his self centredness and greed. After all, he openly declared to my father that “I have never been so rich before”. What does that tell you about Martin Hender? He is quite happy to sacrifice his very own brother to have a bigger bank account and to be the “The big I am”. His ego and greed has no bounds. After all, he put money BEFORE the safety of one or both of his very own children and that applies to his wife too.

The level of disgust towards Martin and his wife is so profound that I cannot really put it into words other than to say that I am totally ashamed of them both.

Martin and his wife Alison were and are so self opinionating and my Martin even said once that “I am right, you do not have an opinion”. I am not one to cite religious references but they are both absolutely and undeniably evil.

I have now suffered from this horrendous skin condition for over 5 years. I have taken lotions and potions but nothing has worked. So many times that I have totally lost hope and wanted to die. One of those instances was last year, late May/June but I have felt like that so many times since.

But, every now and again, I take a very deep breath and say to myself “those buggers are not going to win and, if they do, I will die fighting”. They are bullies and the filth of the earth. They have absolutely no compassion or empathy and would rather rely on the pathetic loyalties that are within the masonhood and guess what? The masons are supposed to be a charitable organisation; what a complete load of crap.

Everything got so bad for me that I begged to see my doctor on a face to face consultation. That is very difficult in these current circumstances but he agreed to see me.

I started off by talking about the severe pain and lack of sleep that I have endured for so many years and then I just broke down; everything poured out. The sexual abuse by my father when I was a very young boy, the false sex abuse claims incited by my father and carried out by my daughter, the bribery to leave the country, the economic abuse that I still suffer; absolutely everything. Nothing was off limits. I just cannot take it anymore and need to get off this damn island and to start afresh. But those in control of the trust and my father’s money want me to stay here, in a prison without bars. They are, in effect, my prison guards, as well as being the judges and juries and continue to control my life and I am now 58!

My doctor was very concerned for me and, once I had calmed down, said that he wanted to write to all of those concerned, to say what damage that they have done to me and continue to do to me. Apart from my couple of friends on the island, he is the very first person who has showed any sympathy and empathy, EVER. That includes everyone who I have been in contact with; all police forces, solicitors, judges, you name it, including my daughter, who made a very big mistake and who has lost me forever; I will never ever see her again and she will not even see my body when I die because I have insisted that the coffin is sealed.

My pleas to Downhill and Marriott have gone unanswered and even if they dare to ignore the letter from my doctor, I will continue to fight and be a thorn in their sides, until my very last breath; I WILL NEVER GIVE IN