I do believe in dreams and that they have a purpose. I believe that Mum was/is totally right in what she said to me.
But, I need to be selfless because the person who needs your attention and love is not me but your granddad.
I know that due to his illness, he acted the way he did and I am sorry to say that Martin and your Mum are using this opportunity to benefit themselves in some way. For Martin, it is all down to money and, for your Mum, it is getting back at me.
You know that for many years, your Mum has sadly used you. Remember the story that you told me about YOUR maintenance being used in part to pay for her expensive hand bags and shoes? That is just one example.
You are very loyal to your Mum; I do get that. You have spent the majority of your life with her and you believe that you “owe her”. But, what she has done is totally unfair both to me and to your granddad.
I do not deny that what happened, hurt me so much but I now know the reason why. Yes, you were the catalyst but it was not you, if you know what I mean.
Whether you can get over the huge burden of guilt is not for me to say. If you want to get over that, I am here for you, whether by phone or email. I have never tried to force you to do anything, as it has to be your decision and yours alone.
I have always said that you were the key and, now with the knowledge of granddad’s condition, that could not be more true.
If we can sort out the issues with granddad, then maybe that will enable me to start a fresh life, away from this dreadful place.
But, granddad must be the first on your list. You did not know that there was this joint power of attorney arrangement and assumed that Martin was put in charge by Dad but that is not the case.
If you do not believe me, the just read the conditions that Dad set out for the welfare powers of attorney. Here is the page that sets out the conditions that your granddad put in place.
For welfare (WE MUST ACT TOGETHER)
MARTIN HAS ACTED TOTALLY ON HIS OWN. I DIDNT KNOW IF GRANDDAD WAS ALIVE OR DEAD!
For financial (MAINLY TOGETHER)
I BELIEVE THAT MARTIN IS SIPHONING OFF GRANDDAD’S MONEY INTO HIS OWN ACCOUNT
I have tried to do everything behind the scenes but now Dad’s bank and even his GP is stonewalling me. I can do nothing at all to halt what I fear is going on.
But, you can, if you have the mind to.
Everyone in the family has lied; My cousin, Martin, Alison and also John Marriott. None of these can be trusted so you cannot confide your worries with any of them and that includes your mother.
You know that I was very close to my cousin; we were more like brother and sister than cousins but she then betrayed me in favour of her “Uncle Will”. So much for being highly religious.
You have a clever brain; you now have a legal brain too so you will know what to do.
With love always