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The Priory at night

Most, if not all, medical facilities have fewer staff on at night, for the simple reason that most patients are asleep, as I should be.

According to the hospital meal role, there are 27 patients, some not too bad, some bad and some very infirm and confused

There are 3 night staff for the whole hospital.

What if there was an emergency? All of the nurses would take care of that patient.

But what if something else happened? There would be no one to help those patients who needed their aid.

I will leave you to ponder on that but I will give you one fact. In the 11 days that I have been here, there has not been a single fire drill. In fact, I have not seen any notices as to what to do in an emergency. In every single hotel room, it is the law to state where the emergency exits are and where everyone should congregate in the case of an emergency; I have seen nothing at all. Most patients would not need help but those who are very confused would need a lot of help, as well as the elderly.

I will ask the question; would you send your unwell loved one to a place like this? Most of us have no choice but have to rely on lady luck

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The Priory – The restriction of civil liberties

I am posting this now, as the senior management may try and restrict my access to the net. This letter is not finished as there is some stupendous proof to be included but, you will get the gist.

This is all about smoking and smokers within the “premises”. All smokers will be more than aware that they are now treated as pariahs by society, even if smokers know what may or may not happen to them; we are not stupid.

It is our lives and this is how we chose to spend part of it; it is our choice and no one other’s.

So, please bear in mind that this letter to the senior management of the  Priory is incomplete, as there is some very crucial evidence that is to be included.

So, here is the letter, as it is. It is quite long but has to be as there are so many issues that need to be dealt with.

D. J. Hender A.C.A.

Address redacted

Telephone number redacted

Email: david_hender@hotmail.co.uk

 

Currently residing at The Priory 

Address redacted

 

Email only to the senior management of The Priory 

15th June 2020

Dear Ladies and Gentlemen,

 

I have now been a resident of the Priory since 4th June 2020, three days before my birthday.

 The whole point of The Priory is, as William Wood envisaged in 1872, was to cure patients with mental issues. Thankfully, the methods that were used then have been consigned to the history books and a more holistic approach is now taken.

 But one matter has never changed; that is that people smoke and will continue to smoke, even if one day it is made illegal. Those who smoke, like me, see it as a comfort and not merely an addiction.

 A few years ago, the powers at be decided that there should be no smoking in hospitals, citing the illnesses that this can create. Every single person who smokes knows that they may do themselves permanent damage, if not worse.

 Currently, at the Priory , those who want to smoke have to stand outside the “hospital grounds” to smoke, designated by the no smoking sign, whether it is pouring with rain or not. If we wish to risk incurring the wrath of the staff, we will sit at tables and chat with the inevitable result being that there are cigarette butts everywhere. That is not the fault of the smoker but is the fault of the hospital.

 I spent a week, during my acrimonious marriage, at Roehampton and there, they have a covered area on the hospital grounds, accessed from inside the building.

 Management has a stark choice. Either us smokers can stand on xxxxxxxxxxxx, discarding our butts with gay abandon, which will certainly not give a very good impression to the hospital or they can install a smoking shelter, looking out onto the delightful fields.

 I can hear the wallets shuddering in the managements’ pockets but this is not the case. Whilst I will probably never benefit from such a shelter, it will not cost the group a single penny as I am prepared to fully fund the purchase myself, as I am quite frankly, sick and tired of being treated as a pariah and a second class citizen.

Indeed, there are many able male and female who could put it together in a day, probably under supervision

 Those who want to “vape” can do so with impunity anywhere in the grounds and I would like to remind you that this is a hospital. Even on aircraft, “vaping is prohibited”.

 The main lawn is large and any smoke will be very quickly dissipated in a matter of seconds and non smokers or even anti smokers (of which there are many on the senior board) will be none the wiser.

 The positioning of the no smoking sign is completely arbitrary, whereas the true hospital grounds start at the blue sign.

We could even put an ugly makeshift tarpaulin up, affixed the trees to afford us some shelter and with all due respect, there is nothing that anyone could do about it.

 It IS a public right of way, as we have seen many dog walkers, joggers and couples using the side road and, if they so choose, they could smoke with the hospital being powerless to stop them, as they have no right to do so whatsoever.

 So, the hospital has a distinct choice. Either

 For an ugly makeshift tarpaulin being erected so that we can smoke in all weathers

Or

An attractive wooden shelter in keeping with the surroundings

 In summary

  • Precedent 1 – Priory Roehampton has a smoking “shelter” attached to the main building; I have been there.
  • Precedent 2 – redacted
  • Precedent 3 – The blue “hospital sign” is the true commencement of the grounds of the hospital and no one may enter unless on official business, otherwise the grounds leading back to the fields would be fenced off
  • Precedent 4 – The Google “streetview” camera man knew not to go past the blue hospital sign but did go a little way down the public right of way (as indicated on the attached photograph)

 Quod erat demonstrandum

 The non smoking sign, attached to the fence, is in a totally arbitrary location and is only affixed there out of sheer convenience

 The gardener will spend far less time picking up cigarette butts, which will save the hospital a great deal of money

 If the smokers have “somewhere to call their own”, they will look after it and cigarette butts will not be thrown away with gay abandon, throughout the grounds.

 Who looks after their home better? Someone who actually owns it or someone who just rents it. Of course, it is the former

 I do not like holding guns to people’s heads; I prefer to work WITH people , as you achieve far more, but once the Covid restrictions are lifted, I will be out of here and in a far cheaper but better maintained establishment. The offer will then evaporate. 

 To date, I have paid £13,000 and have had a couple of meetings with Dr xxxxx and three meals a day. You chose to use your pills rather than the stock that I brought with me. I have also had two out dated time tables, which meant that I missed sessions. That is a very expensive hotel indeed. I am already looking to see if there are any alternatives open.

 I have psoriasis and it is very unpleasant. I bleed on my sheets and I was promised faithfully that they would be changed today. They have not.

TO BE CONTINUED

 

 

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The incompetence of The Priory Group – Putting lives at risk (updated)

I am not going to mention the specific hospital or even name names but there has been a major cock up at the Priory

Before I came to the Priory, I was instructed to wear a mask as soon as I got out of the car, which I duly did. I then entered reception and they immediately took my temperature. I was then swabbed and taken to my room to be under quarantine; my meals were brought to me.

Thankfully, the results came back the next day and I was clear of Covid, so I was allowed to enter the general patient population.

But yesterday, there was a humongous cock up. A drug addict, aa nice chap who needed help, came in for treatment and he was not wearing a mask. Worse than that, he appeared at the dining table a little later and so we all asked him “have you been tested? are you clear?” He said that he had not been tested and knew nothing about it. He should have been in quarantine.  He was under the care of the Priory and they should have known better.

So, now I have demanded a second Covid test and, for the second time, I am having to go into quarantine, all because Priory’s OWN procedures were not followed.

But it just does not affect me; it affects all of those who were at the dining table last night and all of those who were sitting with that chap for breakfast and lunch.

This complete fowl up could have brought Covid into the Priory when it was totally Covid free.

It is all very well for senior management to bugger off and play golf or do whatever they do but there is no management on site to make serious and urgent decisions.

As if I have not got enough anxiety to deal with; the inept senior management has just loaded more on top and they will be sued.

One of the other chaps was going home tomorrow or Monday and his wife is a nurse. That could mean that the entire ward is affected and sadly vulnerable people will die, all because of the complete mismanagement of the Priory

And the chap I was talking about; thankfully he is Covid free and I am glad for him as well as all the other patients.

But that is not the point, is it? Protocols are there for a reason and are NOT to be broken

Even though the chap is clear of Covid-19, thank goodness, I felt that the situation was so very serious and that essential medical protocols have been broken, I have made a formal complaint. Lives were put at risk. This is the sort of mistake that you would expect from underfunded third world facilities but certainly not The Priory.

I feel that it is all down to saving money and using inexperienced agency and bank staff and not well trained professional nurses. The likes of the Priory should attract the creme de la creme of the nursing profession; they charge all of their patients enough.

The American Venture Capital Company, ADVENT INTERNATIONAL, who owns the group, are certainly getting their pound of flesh

Dodgy lifts, probably older than me, under staffed, the list goes on. A prior patient, who had been here before, said that then the grounds were stunning; now, they are a shadow of their former selves

This is not the standard that you would expect from The Priory Group, let alone a facility that is costing me and many others £6,500 to £7,000 a week, if not more.

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Restriction of liberty by the Priory

I will have to be quick as the Priory Group uses a very antiquated system called Barracuda, which means that if you have no mobile telephone, as I don’t, you are isolated.

I was given a password by a tech guy but it is fine for about 5 minutes and then it “bombs you out”. It then takes half an hour to get back to your email account to contact people so that you do not feel alone.

This is nothing short of a corporate restriction of human rights.

Yes, some people are very ill and they should not have access to the net but, in such cases, take all of their phones and laptops away from them and

DO NOT TAR EVERYONE WITH THE SAME BRUSH

I have a meeting with my psychiatrist tomorrow and I will list out my issues about ALL of their systems and protocols in a polite but very forthright way

I remember the ignominy and frustration of “dial up” but this is ten times worse. At least dial up actually worked

This place is supposed to reduce anxiety, depression and of course addiction but with the Priory Group putting in so many barriers, they are completely defeating the purpose of the exercise; but of course, they are still getting their wads of money!

Liberty, what liberty?

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Restriction of liberty

I will have to be quick as the Priory Group uses a very antiquated system called Barracuda, which means that if you have no mobile telephone, as I don’t, you are isolated. We are talking about a £6,500 + a week hospital

I was given a password by a tech guy but it is fine for about 5 minutes and then it “bombs you out”. It then takes half an hour to get back to your email account to contact people so that you do not feel alone.

This is nothing short of a corporate restriction of human rights.

Yes, some people are very ill and they should not have access to the net but, in such cases, take all of their phones and laptops away from them and

DO NOT TAR EVERYONE WITH THE SAME BRUSH

I have a meeting with my psychiatrist tomorrow and I will list out my issues about ALL OF their systems and protocols in a polite but very forthright way

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The incompetence of The Priory Group – Putting lives at risk

I am not going to mention the specific hospital or even name names but there has been a major cock up at the Priory

Before I came to the Priory, I was instructed to wear a mask as soon as I got out of the car, which I duly did. I then entered reception and they immediately took my temperature. I was then swabbed and taken to my room to be under quarantine; my meals were brought to me.

Thankfully, the results came back the next day and I was clear of Covid, so I was allowed to enter the general patient population.

But yesterday, there was a humongous cock up. A drug addict, aa nice chap who needed help, came in for treatment and he was not wearing a mask. Worse than that, he appeared at the dining table a little later and so we all asked him “have you been tested? are you clear?” He said that he had not been tested and knew nothing about it. He should have been in quarantine.  He was under the care of the Priory and they should have known better.

So, now I have demanded a second Covid test and, for the second time, I am having to go into quarantine, all because Priory’s OWN procedures were not followed.

But it just does not affect me; it affects all of those who were at the dining table last night and all of those who were sitting with that chap for breakfast and lunch.

This complete fowl up could have brought Covid into the Priory when it was totally Covid free.

It is all very well for senior management to bugger off and play golf or do whatever they do but there is no management on site to make serious and urgent decisions.

As if I have not got enough anxiety to deal with; the inept senior management has just loaded more on top and they will be sued.

One of the other chaos was going home tomorrow or Monday and his wife is a nurse. That could mean that the entire ward is affected and sadly vulnerable people will die, all because of the complete mismanagement of the Priory

And the chap I was talking about; thankfully he is Covid free and I am glad for him as well as all the other patients.

But that is not the point, is it? Protocols are there for a reason and are NOT to be broken

Even though the chap is clear of Covid-19, thank goodness, I felt that the situation was so very serious and that essential medical protocols have been broken, I have made a formal complaint. Lives were put at risk. This is the sort of mistake that you would expect from underfunded third world facilities but certainly not The Priory.

I feel that it is all down to saving money and using inexperienced agency and bank staff and not well trained professional nurses. The likes of the Priory should attract the creme de la creme of the nursing profession; they charge all of their patients enough.

The American Venture Capital Company, ADVENT INTERNATIONAL, who owns the group, are certainly getting their pound of flesh

This is not the standard that you would expect from The Priory Group, let alone a facility that is costing me and many others £6,500 to £7,000 a week, if not more.

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Why women are allowed to get their own way, ALWAYS

Let’s face it, where there is a woman and a man in a relationship, who is the one that gets their own way? The answer is women and I will tell you why.

It is not just that most women are devious and can look at someone straight in the eye and lie (I have been through two divorces so I know) but it actually comes down to what would happen if a man put his foot down and refused to agree to something, whether it be a holiday, a house or just about anything?

Yes, some of these subject matters may seem inconsequential but if there is a rift, on even a small thing, that rift gets larger and larger, with the sad end result that the relationship breaks down.

It does not matter if the woman sleeps around or not during this process, as the justice system, as it stands will always but always favour the woman over the man.

I thought my first marriage was going well. Yes with bumps in the road but no marriage is perfect. Yes, I would concede on a number of things to keep her sweet and sadly most women in a deep relationship rely on the fact.

I have proved that my first wife purposely broke up the marriage. She started committing adultery with my best friend, without my knowledge, and pushed me so far that I could take no more and started arguing with her. Anyone who knows me well, will know that I was very laid back but, when push came to shove, if I thought that what was going on or was about to happen was wrong, I would say so.

Here is a classic example. She moaned at me for spending £50 on a chest to keep all of my cufflinks in but was happy to spend over £3,500 on a remote controlled gas fire place that I never saw because it was installed when we were on our “trial separation”. I still treasure that cufflink box but that very expensive fireplace is long gone. She also wanted a conservatory earlier on. I said that we did not need it but she said that it was her money that she was spending and she could do with it as she pleased. But I thought that we were married and a married couple share things and agree on most things, especially to do with the family home.

The so called trial separation then instantly became a “I want a divorce” and she financially raped me, taking everything that I had worked so hard for. After all, I had paid for the mortgage and the deposit on the house.

After the divorce, I was left with fuck all and I was in a worse state than when I bought my first home in Guildford, years before; I had saved up most of the money that I had earned from working at my father’s company and more besides when I was working in my first proper job at Wilkins Kennedy.

But all of that was taken away from me. I lost so much that I had to live with my parents for six months before my father agreed to lend me money to buy my home in Brockham.

In my second marriage, it was she who walked out on me. She had brought zip into the marriage; in fact, she brought debt, which I paid off for her. But she was having an affair with a woman but swore blind in court that her children were to live with her, which there was no intention of happening, as the children’s father found out that she was a sapphist and took the children under his wing.

So, after bringing in nothing but debt to a one year marriage, I had to pay out £225,000 to her. That is not bad, is it?

That is why I am so fucked financially and am imprisoned on this island.

Do you see now why men will always give into their partners? Because they do not want to experience what has happened to me and many other men; THAT IS WHY.

It is just not just the money as that is somewhat immaterial although painful. It is the fact that in a break up, the woman always takes the children and more often than not, turns the children against their biological father.

So, the women get loads of money to buy a new house, take the children and then installs a puppy of a lover, who will agree to whatever she asks or says because otherwise he will suffer the same fate

THAT IS WHY MEN WILL ALWAYS BUT ALWAYS GIVE IN TO THEIR PARTNERS.

It is a cliche to say that most women “wear the trousers” but that is why it is so true

And that is why I will never have a live in partner or wife again, as I cannot take the risk. That is thanks to my two ex wives but also thanks to my daughter who taught me that women cannot be trusted, illustrated by her very own actions. IF you cannot trust your daughter, who can you trust?

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Let me cut the wood from the trees THE FALSE ABUSE CLAIMS

A great deal has been said by me of the possible scenarios of what happened but let me take it right back to basics.

  1. I tried to contact Verity’s mother and she responded in a text that it was Pat (aka Lori Cameron) who said that I had sexually abused Verity
  2. Pat in a previous email had said that I had admitted to abusing Verity in the bedroom
  3. But, when I was interrogated by the Police, they accused me of abusing Verity in my car.

Clearly, all of that is totally inconsistent with each other supposed fact, which means that the allegations made by Pat were false as were the allegations made by Verity’s mother. Both Pat and Verity’s mother did it for one thing and one thing only…

MONEY – Even Pat had told me that Verity’s mother had been paid

Furthermore, if I had abused Verity in the car, they would have taken it away for forensic analysis but they did not.

INDEED, THE POLICE NEVER TOUCHED THE CAR AT ALL

What does that tell you? Well, what it tells me is that

  • Pat, my father and Verity’s mother conspired with each other to provide false facts
  • The Police treated the allegations as completely true but then failed to support that by taking evidence from my car
  • The Police knew from the outset that the allegations were false but undertook my arrest and the investigation purely because of my father’s masonic links with the Police.
  • It took me just three months, working on my own, for a layman to prove that I was totally innocent of all such disgusting allegations
  • Verity had lied through her teeth, either because she had been abused by her grandfather or because he had manipulated and bribed her, either emotionally or financially.
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My father is and has always been CORRUPT

I have always looked up to my father, even when we have disagreed.

I saw him build up his first company, General Guarantee Corporation, which was part of the GUS empire.

He always waxed lyrical about how he got the attention of the then owner of GUS, the late Sir Isaac Wolfson.

My father was working for what is now PWC and was asked by Sir Isaac to go in and rescue his investment from a failing company. My father went in and collected money for Sir Isaac, which he kept in a suitcase under his bed.

Why under the bed? Well, what my father was actually doing was to “prefer” Sir Isaac’s investment above all other creditors and so it could not be put in a bank. He BROKE THE LAW.

Sir Isaac got ALL of his money back and was so impressed that he invited my father to start up General Guarantee Corporation or GGC for short.

Using the money of GUS, he built up one of the then largest hire purchase companies in the UK. To get business, which was mainly for cars, he did deals with the dodgy car dealers and so his corruption continued.

He was so successful that he ended up on the main board of GUS as group finance director. GUS and GGC got bigger and they did deals with all sorts of people, one of them being Wells Fargo bank to start up a charge card company for fleets of motor vehicles to buy fuel. It was quite successful for a while but then got into trouble and so my father was put in charge of the sale.

Sir Isaac had retired by then and had been replaced by Lord Leonard Wolfson, his cousin, who is now also dead.

The deal to sale this fuel card company, called Overdrive, went sour and my father was blamed for it by Wolfson. Whether it was his fault or not, I do not know but such was the scale of the blame, he snapped and drove back from London with a flat tyre, not knowing what had happened.

He was now a broken man and was put in the Priory. After a while, I was permitted to bring him home at weekends. He always loved driving but his nerves were completely shot and nearly went through the roof when a car pulled out of a side road and I had to slam on the breaks.

My mother and I cared for him at weekends. I have no idea where Martin was but he was always absent, a position that he took time and time again when there was a family crisis, even when later on, my mother was suffering from Alzheimer’s and my father from a heart condition.

Years passed and he recovered, to an extent anyway. I do not believe that he was ever the same again.

Then this offer came along to start up Premium Credit but as a consultant. PC grew and grew and for reasons that are unimportant, a management buy out was planned. I remember them all toasting each other in London when the deal was done, as all of them had become rich men, very rich.

Ignoring the other participants, when the sale to a third party would be made, my father would become even richer but he did not want to pay any capital gains tax when that happened. It was also a useful tool to protect that money from inheritance tax if he died suddenly.

The management buy out scheme was set up to ensure that my father’s interests were put in a trust so that the UK tax man could not touch it. He basically asked the lawyers, Berwin Leighton Paisner to set up a tax evasion scheme and so more illegal corruption.

When Premium Credit was finally sold to a third party, in this case, MBNA, over  FIFTEEN MILLION POUNDS came my father’s way and was stuck in the trust.

NOT A SINGLE PENNY OF TAX WAS PAID 

Roll on a few years and we are where we are now. My father always denied that he was a Freemason but this is untrue. He used his masonic connections in a great deal of his business dealings and is now using those connections to stiffle any investigation into the abuse of my daughter.

Whether he will actually face justice is one matter but there are other factors to consider, primarily the welfare of my daughter and I do not think that she could bring herself to go through all of that again.

She loves her granddad and has just seen the “loving” performance that he has put on, not knowing what he is REALLY like or what he has done.

I do still love my father; I guess it is a “nurturing” thing  that cannot be broken but one thing is for sure……….

I NOW HATE MY FATHER. I NO LONGER RESPECT HIM AND NEVER WILL AGAIN

Verity Hender and Samantha Parkinson- putting their cards on the table (further updated – additions highlighted in blue)

Whether Verity or her mother are prepared to do this, I have no idea but I am going to try. Verity may but it is unlikely that her mother hates me with a vengeance and the feelings are pretty mutual. But, if Verity does this good thing, then her mother may not need to make such a statement, as the Police may finally put two and two together and finally admit that I am innocent of all crimes. In the first 53 years of my life, I was not charged with any crime but, since April 2016, I have been charged with or have suffered:

  • False accusations of sexual abuse and actual bodily harm (of my daughter)
  • Attempted blackmail (by my father)
  • Harassment of my daughter and mother

If Verity or her mother are not prepared to do this directly to the Police, the “family lawyer”, Ron Downhill of Berwin Leighton Paisner can, I am sure, arrange communication with the Police forces of both Surrey and Hampshire/Isle of Wight

I have written this, to try and act as a catalyst to end this 4 year very painful debacle

Updated draft written statement on behalf of Verity Jade Beatrice Hender

and in full

Updated draft written statement by Verity Jade Beatrice Hender

I, Verity Hender, do hereby make this statement of my own free will and without coercion by any party.

I am aware that my father, David Hender, has instigated a Police investigation into all matters from April 2016 to the current time. I am also aware that the main target of this investigation is my granddad, William Thomas Hender, with many family members and my mother also implicated.

My granddad is suffering from advanced Alzheimer’s and will be 90 in November of this year. To avoid any stress or discomfort to my granddad, whom I dearly love, I need to now declare the truth concerning my father and the allegations that I made.

  1. My father did not sexually abuse me or cause me actual physical harm
  2. My father did not cause me, whether directly or indirectly, harassment of any sort whatsoever

Reasons for the false allegations

My granddad, due to his illness, convinced me to allege the crime of sexual abuse and actual bodily harm. He also paid money to my mother who convinced me also. With this money, my mother and I went on a luxury holiday to Scotland.

Either

  1. My granddad also convinced me to allege harassment on two separate occasions. I was never harassed by anything that my father said on his blog. Yes, some of the things that he said were hurtful but, given what I have put him through, it was a natural reaction to the hurt that I caused him

Or

  1. My mother convinced me to make the harassment allegations. My mother and biological father, David Hender, have had a tumultuous relationship since their divorce when I was still a baby and there is a great deal of acrimony between the two of them. As a result of the false allegations to sexual abuse and actual bodily harm, my Dad tried to get my mother fired from her job, due to an incident of embezzlement, for which my mother was never arrested or charged and was settled privately with the assistance of my granddad, as a result of the intervention of my Dad. Out of sheer spite, my mother persuaded me to allege the crimes of harassment. I followed my Dad’s blog of my own free will.

The reason for the continuous acrimony was due to a number of reasons:

  • The divorce was staged. Firstly my mother wanted a trial separation but after the end of it, my mother demanded a divorce. She was having an affair with my Dad’s best friend, who is now my step father. My Dad got suspicious and went round to the marital home early one morning, only to find his best friend’s car there. My mother admitted adultery in the divorce agreement.
  • My mother flatly refused my Dad’s request of joint custody
  • As a result, my Dad feels that he was set up from the start
  • My mother received a very large portion in the divorce settlement, even though my Dad paid for the mortgage and most of the running costs.; my Dad was left with even less than before he met my mother. As a result of the harsh settlement, my Dad was left with so little money that he had to live with my grandparents for 6 months and only managed to buy a small house with the financial help of my granddad. Shortly after the divorce and my mother moved into her new house in Daymerslea Ridge, she undertook a lot of building work. Where did the money come from for this?
  • My mother spent a lot of the maintenance, paid by my Dad for my welfare, on herself; clothes and handbags. It was me who told my Dad this.
  • No thanks was given to my Dad for arranging for my mother to be bailed out when she was caught embezzling from her employer (Michael Jordan Caravans) and neither did she ever thank my granddad, who put up the money (around £450,000) to prevent my mother from going to prison. My Dad did it purely for me, as he did not want to take me to a prison to see my mother.
  • My father continually received the dregs of the holidays and saw little of me. Year after year, all of the holidays had to fit around my mother. He also rarely saw me for the special occasions; Father’s Day, Christmas and Boxing Day
  • My mother continually refused information as to what was in her own bank account, to her then husband, my Dad and strongly believes that she was dishonest in her divorce financial declaration
  • My Dad always believed there was excuse after excuse as to why he could not see me and he could not spent the special times with me that would have strengthened the bond between us. I became too loyal to my mother.
  • My Dad believes that my mother destroyed the relationship between me and him by conspiring with my granddad to allege the sexual abuse and actual bodily harm of me

I am aware that although my granddad instigated one/both allegations, he cannot be held accountable or arrested, due to his infirmity and age.

I was young and impressionable and made a huge mistake, one that has caused my Dad a great deal of pain, leading eventually to him wanting to end his life, which led to him seeking psychiatric care at The Priory.

Although my father has publicly forgiven me, I do not know if I can face him as I have caused him so much hurt. I know that he desperately wants to see me but I do not know if I am able.

I am well aware that I have ruined his “new life” on the Isle of Wight and that, as a result, he wants to return to a quiet place on the mainland to really heal and restart his life.

I wish for six matters to be put into action with immediate effect:

  1. He is FULLY exonerated of the alleged crime of sexual abuse and actual bodily harm (Surrey Police) and a letter of apology is emailed to him by Surrey Police. This apology letter will not limit their liability
  2. He is FULLY exonerated of the alleged crime of harassment via his blog (Isle of Wight Police) and a letter of apology is emailed to him by the Isle of Wight Police. This apology letter will not limit their liability
  3. The case against my Dad is dismissed and is struck from the records, to be confirmed to him by email
  4. The abuse and harassment that my Dad has endured from the Isle of Wight Police immediately ceases and that the Isle of Wight Police send a letter of apology to him by email. This apology letter will not limit their liability
  5. All property that has been seized by the Isle of Wight Police is returned to his house by the Police, at a prearranged time, as my father will never enter the police station again, given what he has been put through.
  6. A statement is sent to my father by the Isle of Wight Police, to the effect that there will be no further action him and the case is closed
  7. The investigation of an alleged crime committed by my granddad and/or family members and my grandfather’s associates ceases.

Due to the hurt and damage, both physical and psychological that has been caused to my father, compensation will be paid to my Dad but done so privately. In addition, all matters to which my Dad has had issues with for so long, such as with the Hender Family Settlement, will be resolved to his satisfaction.

I end this statement by apologising unreservedly to my Dad, whom I dearly love, for the hurt that has been caused and to both the Surrey and Isle of Wight Police for making false allegations and for wasting police time.

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Well, that is it.Let’s see if she is woman enough to admit her mistakes. We all make mistakes but it is always a question of whether you can admit to them or not.

If she does not and the whole can of worms is tipped upside down, it will eventually lead to her and, now that she is an adult, they will throw the book at her and the career, for which she worked so hard for at university, will be over before it really begins.

But there is one thing that will surprise you. Although my relationship with Verity’s mother, Samantha, has been mostly full of acrimony, even if we did help each other out at times, one of my favourite songs was the one that we chose to include on our wedding video.

The reason? Without that marriage, my darling Verity would never have been born and, for a time, I was in love with Samantha. You will have to ask her if she was ever in love with me. And now, the song, sung by Louis Armstrong; the words meant everything to me

I have deleted the link now. Anyone who wanted to hear it for the right reasons would have done so by now.

One more thing; I will not step foot on the Isle of Wight until all of this is resolved; certainly, a confirmation that the police are off by back, at the very least

 

Verity Hender and Samantha Parkinson- putting their cards on the table (updated)

Whether Verity or her mother are prepared to do this, I have no idea but I am going to try. Verity may but it is unlikely that her mother hates me with a vengeance and the feelings are pretty mutual. But, if Verity does this good thing, then her mother may not need to make such a statement, as the Police may finally put two and two together and finally admit that I am innocent of all crimes. In the first 53 years of my life, I was not charged with any crime but, since April 2016, I have been charged with or have suffered:

  • False accusations of sexual abuse and actual bodily harm (of my daughter)
  • Attempted blackmail (by my father)
  • Harassment of my daughter and mother

If Verity or her mother are not prepared to do this directly to the Police, the “family lawyer”, Ron Downhill of Berwin Leighton Paisner can, I am sure, arrange communication with the Police forces of both Surrey and Hampshire/Isle of Wight

I have written this, to try and act as a catalyst to end this 4 year very painful debacle

Draft written statement on behalf of Verity Jade Beatrice Hender

and in full

Draft written statement by Verity Jade Beatrice Hender

I, Verity Hender, do hereby make this statement of my own free will and without coercion by any party.

I am aware that my father, David Hender, has instigated a Police investigation into all matters from April 2016 to the current time. I am also aware that the main target of this investigation is my granddad, William Thomas Hender, with many family members and my mother also implicated.

My granddad is suffering from advanced Alzheimer’s and will be 90 in November of this year. To avoid any stress or discomfort to my granddad, whom I dearly love, I need to now declare the truth concerning my father and the allegations that I made.

  1. My father did not sexually abuse me or cause me actual physical harm
  2. My father did not cause me, whether directly or indirectly, harassment of any sort whatsoever

Reasons for the false allegations

My granddad, due to his illness, convinced me to allege the crime of sexual abuse and actual bodily harm. He also paid money to my mother who convinced me also. With this money, my mother and I went on a luxury holiday to Scotland.

Either

  1. My granddad also convinced me to allege harassment on two separate occasions. I was never harassed by anything that my father said on his blog. Yes, some of the things that he said were hurtful but, given what I have put him through, it was a natural reaction to the hurt that I caused him

Or

  1. My mother convinced me to make the harassment allegations. My mother and biological father, David Hender, have had a tumultuous relationship since their divorce when I was still a baby and there is a great deal of acrimony between the two of them. As a result of the false allegations to sexual abuse and actual bodily harm, my Dad tried to get my mother fired from her job, due to an incident of embezzlement, for which my mother was never arrested or charged and was settled privately with the assistance of my granddad, as a result of the intervention of my Dad. Out of sheer spite, my mother persuaded me to allege the crimes of harassment. I followed my Dad’s blog of my own free will.

The reason for the continuous acrimony was due to a number of reasons, namely:

My mother received a very large portion in the divorce settlement, even though my Dad paid for the mortgage and, as a result was left with so little money, he had to live with my grandparents for 6 months and only managed to buy a small house with the financial help of my granddad.

My father continually received the dregs of the holidays and saw little of me. He also rarely saw me for the special occasions; Father’s Day, Christmas and Boxing Day

I am aware that although my granddad instigated one/both allegations, he cannot be held accountable or arrested, due to his infirmity and age.

I was young and impressionable and made a huge mistake, one that has caused my Dad a great deal of pain, leading eventually to him wanting to end his life, which led to him seeking psychiatric care at The Priory.

Although my father has publicly forgiven me, I do not know if I can face him as I have caused him so much hurt. I know that he desperately wants to see me but I do not know if I am able.

I am well aware that I have ruined his “new life” on the Isle of Wight and that, as a result, he wants to return to a quiet place on the mainland to really heal and restart his life.

I wish for six matters to be put into action with immediate effect:

  1. He is FULLY exonerated of the alleged crime of sexual abuse and actual bodily harm (Surrey Police) and a letter of apology is emailed to him by Surrey Police. This apology letter will not limit their liability
  2. He is FULLY exonerated of the alleged crime of harassment via his blog (Isle of Wight Police) and a letter of apology is emailed to him by the Isle of Wight Police. This apology letter will not limit their liability
  3. The case against my Dad is dismissed and is struck from the records, to be confirmed to him by email
  4. The abuse and harassment that my Dad has endured from the Isle of Wight Police immediately ceases and that the Isle of Wight Police send a letter of apology to him by email. This apology letter will not limit their liability
  5. All property that has been seized by the Isle of Wight Police is returned to his house by the Police, at a prearranged time, as my father will never enter the police station again, given what he has been put through.
  6. A statement is sent to my father by the Isle of Wight Police, to the effect that there will be no further action him and the case is closed
  7. The investigation of an alleged crime committed by my granddad and/or family members and my grandfather’s associates ceases.

Due to the hurt and damage, both physical and psychological that has been caused to my father, compensation will be paid to my Dad but done so privately. In addition, all matters to which my Dad has had issues with for so long, such as with the Hender Family Settlement, will be resolved to his satisfaction.

I end this statement by apologising unreservedly to my Dad, whom I dearly love, for the hurt that has been caused and to both the Surrey and Isle of Wight Police for making false allegations and for wasting police time.

—————————————————————————————————————————————–

Well, that is it.Let’s see if she is woman enough to admit her mistakes. We all make mistakes but it is always a question of whether you can admit to them or not.

If she does not and the whole can of worms is tipped upside down, it will eventually lead to her and, now that she is an adult, they will throw the book at her and the career, for which she worked so hard for at university, will be over before it really begins.

But there is one thing that will surprise you. Although my relationship with Verity’s mother, Samantha, has been mostly full of acrimony, even if we did help each other out at times, one of my favourite songs was the one that we chose to include on our wedding video.

The reason? Without that marriage, my darling Verity would never have been born and, for a time, I was in love with Samantha. You will have to ask her if she was ever in love with me. And now, the song, sung by Louis Armstrong; the words meant everything to me

I have deleted the link now. Anyone who wanted to hear it for the right reasons would have done so by now.

One more thing; I will not step foot on the Isle of Wight until all of this is resolved; certainly, a confirmation that the police are off by back, at the very least

 

Why life is so precious – Eva Cassidy (updated)

A lot of people think that life is a game and you can muck about with other people’s lives, just for the fun of it, for money or both.

This is Eva Cassidy, taken when she was 25 .

Cassidy in 1988

Eva had a voice of an angel. She died at the grand old age of just 33. Let me repeat that: THIRTY THREE. Just think on that. A great talent lost at a very early age, just like my Liesel, who was a paediatric occupational therapist

To put in perspective, my daughter is already 22.

This restored footage was filmed on 3rd January 1996,  just 10 months before she left us and 2 1/2 years before my daughter, Verity, even came into this world.

Verity nearly did not come into the world at all; it was touch and go for a while. I do not think that neither Verity nor her mother actually realise how close it was; Verity’s Mum was out of it and in a lot of pain. I, however, knew exactly what was going on and, if it had not been for my intervention and the quick actions of a doctor, Verity would not be here now or would have been severely brain damaged. In fact, no one else, whether in the family or extended family know, apart from me.

Even after all of these years, I still remember what I shouted in the hospital corridor when I realised that the midwife was struggling “If there is not a doctor here in two minutes, I will sue the hospital, because the lives of my wife and baby are both in danger”

That is one of the reasons that I said that life is so precious and should always be cherished.

She was singing this, probably knowing that she had just a few months to live. Just look at the sadness in her eyes.

Eva was a brave woman facing death and so was my Liesel.

That is why Lies chose some of her music for her own funeral in South Africa; I guess that she could empathise or “connect” with Eva. But someone very close to Liesel didn’t want to know about her funeral, not even now.

Those two women had more moral fibre in their finger tips than some have in their ENTIRE bodies.

Here it is; there will not be a dry eye in sight. This is so beautiful. Enjoy

THIS IS WHY LIFE IS SO PRECIOUS AND SHOULD NEVER BE WASTED

And just look how many views this footage has had; it says it all, doesn’t it?

And if that wonderful song did not break your heart and set you off crying, here is another song, from the same venue at the same time.

I dedicate this song to my soulmate, Liesel, who is looking over all of us and, last but not least, my daughter, Verity, neither of whom I will ever stop loving.

This is self indulgent of me; I cannot finish this post without including this.

Just listen to the lyrics and look how well and happy Eva looks.

and you have never heard “Danny Boy” being sung like this

Why life is so precious – Eva Cassidy

A lot of people think that life is a game and you can muck about with other people’s lives, just for the fun of it, for money or both.

This is Eva Cassidy, taken when she was 25 .

Cassidy in 1988

Eva had a voice of an angel. She died at the grand old age of just 33. Let me repeat that: THIRTY THREE. Just think on that. A great talent lost at a very early age, just like my Liesel, who was a paediatric occupational therapist

To put in perspective, my daughter is already 22.

This restored footage was filmed on 3rd January 1996,  just 10 months before she left us and 2 1/2 years before my daughter even came into this world .

She was singing this, probably knowing that she had just a few months to live. Just look at the sadness in her eyes.

Eva was a brave woman facing death and so was my Liesel.

That is why Lies chose some of her music for her own funeral in South Africa; I guess that she could empathise or “connect” with Eva. But someone very close to Liesel didn’t want to know about her funeral, not even now.

Those two women had more moral fibre in their finger tips than some have in their ENTIRE bodies.

Here it is; there will not be a dry eye in sight. This is so beautiful. Enjoy

THIS IS WHY LIFE IS SO PRECIOUS AND SHOULD NEVER BE WASTED

And just look how many views this footage has had; it says it all, doesn’t it?

 

Verity Hender and Samantha Parkinson- putting their cards on the table

Whether Verity or her mother are prepared to do this, I have no idea but I am going to try. Verity may but it is unlikely that her mother hates me with a vengeance and the feelings are pretty mutual. But, if Verity does this good thing, then her mother may not need to make such a statement, as the Police may finally put two and two together and finally admit that I am innocent of all crimes. In the first 53 years of my life, I was not charged with any crime but, since April 2016, I have been charged with or have suffered:

  • False accusations of sexual abuse and actual bodily harm (of my daughter)
  • Attempted blackmail (by my father)
  • Harassment of my daughter and mother

If Verity or her mother are not prepared to do this directly to the Police, the “family lawyer”, Ron Downhill of Berwin Leighton Paisner can, I am sure, arrange communication with the Police forces of both Surrey and Hampshire/Isle of Wight

I have written this, to try and act as a catalyst to end this 4 year very painful debacle

Draft written statement on behalf of Verity Jade Beatrice Hender

and in full

Draft written statement by Verity Jade Beatrice Hender

I, Verity Hender, do hereby make this statement of my own free will and without coercion by any party.

I am aware that my father, David Hender, has instigated a Police investigation into all matters from April 2016 to the current time. I am also aware that the main target of this investigation is my granddad, William Thomas Hender, with many family members and my mother also implicated.

My granddad is suffering from advanced Alzheimer’s and will be 90 in November of this year. To avoid any stress or discomfort to my granddad, whom I dearly love, I need to now declare the truth concerning my father and the allegations that I made.

  1. My father did not sexually abuse me or cause me actual physical harm
  2. My father did not cause me, whether directly or indirectly, harassment of any sort whatsoever

Reasons for the false allegations

My granddad, due to his illness, convinced me to allege the crime of sexual abuse and actual bodily harm. He also paid money to my mother who convinced me also. With this money, my mother and I went on a luxury holiday to Scotland.

Either

  1. My granddad also convinced me to allege harassment on two separate occasions. I was never harassed by anything that my father said on his blog. Yes, some of the things that he said were hurtful but, given what I have put him through, it was a natural reaction to the hurt that I caused him

Or

  1. My mother convinced me to make the harassment allegations. My mother and biological father, David Hender, have had a tumultuous relationship since their divorce when I was still a baby and there is a great deal of acrimony between the two of them. As a result of the false allegations to sexual abuse and actual bodily harm, my Dad tried to get my mother fired from her job, due to an incident of embezzlement, for which my mother was never arrested or charged and was settled privately with the assistance of my granddad, as a result of the intervention of my Dad. Out of sheer spite, my mother persuaded me to allege the crimes of harassment. I followed my Dad’s blog of my own free will.

I am aware that although my granddad instigated one/both allegations, he cannot be held accountable or arrested, due to his infirmity and age.

I was young and impressionable and made a huge mistake, one that has caused my Dad a great deal of pain, leading eventually to him wanting to end his life, which led to him seeking psychiatric care at The Priory.

Although my father has publicly forgiven me, I do not know if I can face him as I have caused him so much hurt. I know that he desperately wants to see me but I do not know if I am able.

I am well aware that I have ruined his “new life” on the Isle of Wight and that, as a result, he wants to return to a quiet place on the mainland to really heal and restart his life.

I wish for six matters to be put into action with immediate effect:

  1. He is FULLY exonerated of the alleged crime of sexual abuse and actual bodily harm (Surrey Police) and a letter of apology is emailed to him by Surrey Police. This apology letter will not limit their liability
  2. He is FULLY exonerated of the alleged crime of harassment via his blog (Isle of Wight Police) and a letter of apology is emailed to him by the Isle of Wight Police. This apology letter will not limit their liability
  3. The case against my Dad is dismissed and is struck from the records, to be confirmed to him by email
  4. The abuse and harassment that my Dad has endured from the Isle of Wight Police immediately ceases and that the Isle of Wight Police send a letter of apology to him by email. This apology letter will not limit their liability
  5. All property that has been seized by the Isle of Wight Police is returned to his house by the Police, at a prearranged time, as my father will never enter the police station again, given what he has been put through.
  6. A statement is sent to my father by the Isle of Wight Police, to the effect that there will be no further action him and the case is closed
  7. The investigation of an alleged crime committed by my granddad and/or family members and my grandfather’s associates ceases.

Due to the hurt and damage, both physical and psychological that has been caused to my father, compensation will be paid to my Dad but done so privately. In addition, all matters to which my Dad has had issues with for so long, such as with the Hender Family Settlement, will be resolved to his satisfaction.

I end this statement by apologising unreservedly to my Dad, whom I dearly love, for the hurt that has been caused and to both the Surrey and Isle of Wight Police for making false allegations and for wasting police time.

—————————————————————————————————————————————–

Well, that is it.Let’s see if she is woman enough to admit her mistakes. We all make mistakes but it is always a question of whether you can admit to them or not.

If she does not and the whole can of worms is tipped upside down, it will eventually lead to her and, now that she is an adult, they will throw the book at her and the career, for which she worked so hard for at university, will be over before it really begins.

One more thing; I will not step foot on the Isle of Wight until all of this is resolved; certainly, a confirmation that the police are off by back, at the very least

 

Jeremy Bamber – The truth is finally uncovered

When I read Jeremy’s reply to my last email, I could not believe what I was reading; I had to read it twice for it to sink in.

Through his determination, obvious high intelligence and just sticking with it, he is finally uncovering the real truth; that it was a set up right from the start. It just goes to show how corrupt Essex Police were all of those years ago and how corrupt they still are.

No one wanted the truth to come out and the Police used all kinds of excuses to hide the evidence, such as the so called “Public Interest Immunity“, which meant that they did not have to disclose evidence if they thought that it would be harmful to their (the Police’s) case.

Please go onto my list of posts and just search for “Jeremy Bamber” and you will see what skulduggery the Police have been up to.

So here, for your delectation and delight, is Jeremy’s most recent reply to me.

reply part1

reply part2

My first comment to him, when I read it, was “WHAT A RESULT

It is bizarrely similar, in some ways, to my case in that Jeremy has lost his liberty for 35 years now, because of a lie and I have been harassed and abused by the Police for the same reason but thankfully I have kept my liberty.

But, if I had not proven my innocence in early 2016 and had not worked my socks off to disprove my daughter’s allegations of sexual abuse and actual physical harm, I would be in prison now too. In my case, it was not the Police who started it all off; it was in fact my very own father and daughter, Verity. But the Police soon caught up and put me through absolute hell to the point that I wanted to end my life, both in April 2016 and recently, in May 2020.

After the media called him all sorts of things at the time, I wonder if they will now be brave enough to go back on their words or is it a fact that a man has been imprisoned for 35 years for a crime that he never committed not sexy enough for the media.

But it goes further than that. It shows how biased and corrupt most police forces are and I have had plenty of experience of that. They will go as far as they like to protect their so called reputation; even if it means that an innocent person is harassed and abused by the Police or worse, sent to prison.

I nearly gave up and wanted to kill myself but with help from the psychiatrists at the Priory, I am on the road to recovery but I have a long way to go. I had determination to get to the truth but, with Jeremy’s great news, I am even more determined to expose what my family have been up to and to expose my family for what they are, especially my daughter:

LIARS AND CHEATS, ALL OF THEM

A message to Ron Downhill

Ron Downhill is a former partner of Berwin Leighton Paisner and is now a consultant to the same. He has known my father for a lifetime and me for less. So, I have written an email to him, which took a considerable time to write as, some of the parts, were very hard to write; namely my Dad and my daughter.

The email is pretty self explanatory and those who read my blog regularly and who know the history, will fully understand everything.

My father et all
David Hender
Tue 07/07/2020 14:28
To:

  •  Ron Downhill
Cc:

  •  Clare Edwards (Paicolex);
  •  Pat
Ron,
You are now well aware that I have involved the Police. If there is nothing to hide, why all the secrecy and silence? It may take Surrey police a few days to gather all of the information but they will do it, rest assured of that. They or associated forces will then investigate everyone, including Pat.
Once they get their teeth into everything, it will open a whole can of worms; I am sure that you do not wish for that to happen.
You know that I wish for all of this to go away and so that we can all lead our lives as normal again as possible.
To labour the point, this is what I wish:
  • A full and frank disclosure of my father’s condition and as to whom is looking after him
  • Why Martin felt it necessary to circumvent the lasting power of attorneys
  • Release of the dividends that are due to me, as well as the related interest
  • A statement by Verity that everything was falsified. If she refuses to make such a statement, she is clearly in denial or is so guilt ridden that she cannot bring herself to admit that all of the allegations were lies.
  • A sensible compensatory settlement
  • The current role of John Marriott. Martin could not even balance a cheque book so he must be heavily involved
You should know that the OPG are also involved and they have the legal power to investigate elder abuse, in whatever form.
Your own motives for going along with all of this are clear. You are both loyal to my father and, even now, probably still believe that I abused my daughter. The activity when I published that so called confession was so high that it showed that my father had convinced all of you that I did such a thing; I believe you know me better than that. But, what is ignored is my innocence, as both the police and the CPS threw the case out because I provided so much evidence that I could not have possibly done such horrid things. It even included a period of time when I had not even seen Verity or was not actually on the mainland.
She even invited me to come over to the mainland in Late January 2016 to take her out for supper and to have a chat; are they the actions of a young woman that I am supposed to have abused for years?
Of course, another motive could hark back to when I pressurised BLP to get Thomas Meier to “retire”. Yes, I liked and respected Thomas a great deal but what happened to him was his own fault. In an environment of secrecy and non disclosure, he broke the cardinal rule of a trustee; to put the trust at risk and going along with everything that was asked of him by my father.
When I found out, what did you expect me to do? I had already been side-lined and the only way for me to achieve equality in the trust was for me to fight back.
If there had been an environment of inclusivity (which my father followed for many years) rather than the “cloak and dagger” approach taken, then there may have been a far more satisfactory resolution. That is why I uncovered what I did and disclosed it. Quite frankly, all of you are to blame for Thomas’ “departure”.
You can achieve far more working together than fighting each other.
Do you honestly believe that this is what I want? Of course, it is not. I put all of the actions that have been taken down to my father’s illness, even though he set out to destroy my life, which he did very well. Can you understand how hard it is for me to forgive the man who did all of those things to me?
My father and I worked side by side for many years and that was why I was so happy to do everything and because I loved him. Where was Martin all of this time? Even when he had returned to the UK and Mum became ill, he made one intervention and then was conspicuous by his absence. He made lots of excuses as to why he could not be there for Mum but he just thinks about himself. He even left my second wedding reception to go to a party. So that he and Alison could go out and they could not find a baby sitter, he asked me to drive all the way down to Castle Combe to look after his girls; no offer of paying for or contributing to my fuel, just a curry. That is the measure of the man.
Do you honestly believe that I want two detectives to visit my Dad’s house and potentially scare, confuse and upset him? Of course not, you know me better than that and I do not want that to happen, he is first and foremost my Dad after all, but all of you have given me no choice but to act in the way that I have.
My father, through his illness, instigated everything; the false abuse claims, the attempted bribery and almost definitely the two so called harassment claims.
I was the one that my Dad called nearly every day to calm Mum down, to care for his affairs whilst he was in hospital as the strain of having Mum at home was too much for him, who stayed with him before and after Mum’s death and then continuously visited him, all at the expense of my little internet business.
When my father was in hospital, he had been there for so long and had been so unwell that he went into overdraft, the very first time in his whole life, as he could not manage his affairs. He was so mortified that he had gone into overdraft that he actually had a panic attack when he saw the statement but I said that I would fix it. I shot back to Long Barn, transferred every single penny from all of my personal accounts (and more) right up to my overdraft limit in order to put Dad back in funds. Why did I do that? Because I loved my Dad and he had done so much for me; it was the least that I could do. When he was better, he repaid everything including the bank interest that I had incurred. I have to say this; would Martin have done that or even thought of it? I doubt it very much
And what did Martin say to my father at Mum’s funeral? “I am sorry that I was not there” and he ran a marathon in her memory as a result, probably out of guilt, with all money raised going to the Alzheimer’s Society.
But it seems that he is doing the same again, this time with his father; the very person who has made him so wealthy. Put in some carers, which was my idea, then forget about him and carry on his social life as normal. It seems that it is history repeating itself. I even paid for a WiFi based CCTV system, the same as is installed in my house and sent it to him so that he could monitor that Dad was okay; I even asked Verity via my blog to help set it up, as Martin is a technophobe. I doubt that it was ever installed.
Through my father’s illness, it led to me wanting to kill myself that led to me having to spend so much to be at The Priory. That was because I was abused and harassed by the Police, because of the allegations that led to my severe agoraphobia. Even though I had that mental illness, I was still dragged out of my house by the Police countless times and even became catatonic when they dragged me out for the so called hearing, that I said that I could not attend. Even the so called harassment charges still hang over me, so I will not set one foot on the island until everything is resolved, because as soon as I do, the IOW police will abuse and harass me again and I will be right back in the Priory, if I do not end my life for real this time.
Even though I have been to hell and back, I am still man enough to understand that it was not my real father who did all of that but the disease. But what he has done is to set a row of dominos falling, each one designed to maximise pain to me. I was even accused in the Priory of sexual abuse by a misandrist, as was 5 other men and it was as though it had started all over again.
Although I have tried for years, I sadly know now that my darling Verity is lost to me, all as a result of my father’s actions. So, even though I do not wish to accept it, I now have only two goals. The first is to ensure that my father is properly cared for and the second is to restart my life yet again but this time on the mainland, so that I can have a simple, peaceful and partly isolated life, without the trust keep on moving the goalposts to make my life as hard as they possibly can.
My father is sick and will not get better; there is sadly nothing that I can do about that, as long as he is cared for properly. So, it comes down to me. I am damaged as a result of everything but I still want to lead a life, with no one knowing where I am.
If Verity is woman enough to face me one day, she can always contact me via email, as my address will never change but I doubt that will ever happen, even though I have said publicly that I forgive her for what she has done. You are allowed to make one big mistake in life. I have not only lost the last 4 years of her being in my life but I have missed her 18th, 21st and her graduation. I did not see her much anyway because she lived with her mother, but when I did see her, my spirits were raised to an unquantifiable level. I lived for my darling Munchkin, even when we were apart, but that has gone now.
Please think very hard Ron about what you have done and what all of this is still doing to me.
Finally, I would ask that you forward this email to Martin, as since the brewery he worked for has gone bust, I have no contact details. Please also forward this to Verity as, if I do, I will be arrested yet again and that action will put me back where I was on the 28th May
As PC Martin Egerton said to me when we discussed this case, there are two sides to every story.
Regards
David

Finally, the Police are taking action

If the family thought that I was bluffing, they are sadly mistaken.

I now have a crime reference and action will now be taken by the Police, via the aid of an extremely helpful and understanding police officer.

Furthermore, following my visits to my Dad’s house, I have recontacted the Office of the Public Guardian, who are empowered to investigate what is known as “elder abuse”, be it financial, welfare orientated or physical abuse.

My father (updated)

I decided to take the drive up to my father’s house and see for myself as to exactly what is happening and how my father is being cared for. I now know everything and what a bunch of liars everyone has been.

Next stage is the Police but I will ask them to tread softly; I do not want them to frighten my Dad

Paid another impromptu visit today (5th July) and this time there was a black/dark coloured Freelander type car there, parked across the garages so that I could not see the number plate. The family are taking every precaution to cover their tracks now.

But at least it means that there is now conclusive proof that he is being cared for all week round and that is the main thing.